being mean to animals, not washing hands habitually, littering, leaving the shopping cart out, buzz cut / crew cut and variations thereof (for dudes, some chicks can rock it), having no weird behaviors at all. refusal to be emotionally honest (oh no, its me i’m sorry)
I’m gonna find out soon enough, and I’m worried. I already know I have a couple small bumps on my head (they feel like pimples/ingrown hairs, but I’ve tried squeezing them to no avail), and I’m almost positive my head is shaped differently than normal.
To me, it looks more like social camoflauge. “I’m just a normal guy, i have normal opinions, trust me bro” is the vibe I get. I get putting it on for things like work, but if you decide to blend in as your preferred look, ehh, i dunno, maybe I’d rather hang out with the bear, you know?
i’m probably in the minority w this, but blending in is comfortable as hell, as someone who doesn’t really enjoy being social.
Long after the pandemic was under control I was still using a mask, partly due to health concerns back home, but mostly because with a mask, cap, and glasses, I could walk by people I know but would rather not strike up conversation.
I would use the same definition as you, but that’s the only definition I can think of that would leave one thinking many people engage in animal cruelty. Unless your entire circle of friends is an illegal dogfighting ring.
right? i mean, i’m balding and i find the alternative of growing the little hair i have left far more unpleasant than just having a buzz cut. but hey, that’s just preferences.
It depends. I run a bar and also frequent bars. I see a lot of behavior from wait staff I’d fire them for. Wait staff endlessly bitch about customers but its a two way street, staff develops a blind spot to their own behavior due to spending so much time in a bar.
Bro they are working in a high intensity environment. You are there to have fun. They are talking behind your back. (So how does that affect you?) Versus actively being a jerk to someone just doing their job (which is, unfortunately, to engage with you). It’s not the same.
Are you really trying to explain running a bar to me? Anyways your answer is horseshit. I work in that high intensity environment and see the blinders go on. Innocuous requests by customers turn into staff acting like it’s a massive imposition. They openly talk to me because they’ve been at my bar, served by me, and I know who’s I’d hire and I wouldn’t from the free talk.
I’m German. Foreign accents (I.e. some foreigner speaking German) are either funny or cute to me. If I feel neither, that’s probably because I need to concentrate to understand. In German accents, a Bavarian accent, a Saxon or a Frisian one turn me off.
In (to me) foreign languages, I don’t care, meaning that I’m just as fine with „Oi com frum Birmingham“ as with a posh Oxford accent. Also the southern French accent is fine with me, as well as the northwestern one. I’m also fine with Breton, but that’s a language, not an accent. And I don’t understand the latter very well anyway, let alone speak fluently.
Everybody’s already mentioned the important things, but to be the more superficial one: people with no sense of style. People who just throw on something randomly and don’t give it a single thought. I get being comfortable, but you can be stylish and comfortable. You are not that when you wear knee-long jeans shorts and an unwashed tee, in my opinion.
I’m your total opposite. Requiring style in others is a huge red flag. If you care about more about the clothes of a person than about the person, I don’t want to know you.
Fair enough. Personally, I prefer personality over appearance. But I also think it’s a visual turnoff to see no effort, also because the way a person dresses is usually the first thing most people notice. I do, anyway.
Right with ya. I just crawled in out the woods, from a storm. Got showered, put on nice clothes and cologne to greet my wife coming home from work. Know why? Because I want to look good for my partner. And she does the same for me.
I’ll wear decent jeans if it’s something I care about/ can’t wear shorts too. But colours that fit my skin just don’t make sense to me. I can’t understand it, it’s not intuitive.
I must be misunderstanding this one. That sounds like you want a person that buries their feelings and pretends to be joyful all the time. It’s perfectly human to have a bad day and on occasion be a little shitty.
If you’re speaking of them being shitty most of the time about most things then I can see your point.
Edit: Grammer is important when trying to communicate without misunderstanding.
Why would I be talking about the first one? Toxic positivity is complete and utter bullshit, and I’m tired of people telling me I can’t complain about other people for whatever reason.
I’ve ended a relationship because the girl drove like an impatient bafoon. If you have a superiority complex about a speed limit in residential areas, I’ll sit in the passenger seat railing about how you’re such a shit driver. Just drive the speed limit and gently.
A stick up the ass isn’t the exact same thing as low intelligence or whatever this turnoff is, but then again I’m not good at let-loose stupid fun, so maybe I’m biased.
Either way, more left for me, as they say, as long as everyone’s having a good consensual time.
Sure, but “dumb and childish” to me conveys “dumb as in goofy” rather than “dumb as in a bag of rocks,” and that is why I responded with disagreement related to such. The operative word here is really “childish,” tbh. They go on to say that they are not good at letting loose, but also clarify that they meant “low intelligence.” It is unclear if they perceive goofy fun as a sign of low intelligence in and of itself.
In any case, arguing the semantics of the phrase “dumb and childish” doesn’t meet my definition of fun lol. Like I said “different strokes,” people can like different things and I think that is wonderful tbh.
OP here again. I don’t. I just don’t get at least some forms of it. I have been known to do some good pranks, but most other things people classify as “letting loose” aren’t my jam. I’m more of a books and tea person.
Originally I was thinking of people I’ve known that literally made me feel like I was talking to a child. I don’t know what that is, exactly, but low intelligence is a decent guess. Oh well, I’ll try different wording if it ever comes up again.
Ok, I get that you don’t like stupid people, but you shouldn’t judge people solely on how they act. You can act like a child and be a intelligent and a competent person.
I have a sister who I’m close with, who has all kinds of dinosaur-themed stuff and loves it. That’s not the issue. It was a poor choice of wording I guess to describe it that way. I had an exchange recently where I literally felt like I was talking to a kid after a while, though, and all thoughts of romance were immediately dead, so that was my first thought.
The way people act is the interface with which you interact with them. It makes little difference if what lurks behind is an intelligent person or a child if they both behave the same.
My co worker has straight gum rot, like a few millimeter layer where the gums meet their teeth that’s all whiteish green and they have horrendous breath I can smell 15 feet down wind of the AC system. This is due to their horrible personal hygiene, he has a wife with good teeth, I don’t know how she kisses him, I would vomit.
He’s only in his early 30’s and also just had to get one of his K9 teeth pulled out.
It seems like sometimes women (in specific) start with these crazy high expectations, but then start lowering them during the relationship, and never stop lowering them.
There absolutely is such a thing as being too accepting of bad behavior from a partner. That’s just healthy boundaries. Letting your gums rot probably should be outside that scope, if they can help it at all.