I’ve always had issues trying to do myself from “my angle” if you know what I mean, I’ve always worn light blue or grayish dress shirts without the tie to interviews, or I’d just leave the tie spaced out so I can shrink it again when I got around my neck.
Forget those complex “classic” knots and try the “Van Wijk” knot. It couldn’t be easier, you only move the fat end of the tie and wrap it around the skinny end 2-4 times before pulling the fat end through the wraps. So fast, impossible to forget, and looks classy while being distinct.
I’m also just spit balling but many skills are needing an account if muscle memory.
So with that I’m mine i wonder if you spent 10-20 minutes a day just tracing styles or things you want to be able to draw to develop that muscle memory would be helpful
Wait, you can learn whistling? I only can do a high pitched gym-teacher sounding whistle, which was very entertaining in gym class, but has since fallen off hard
One day a couple years ago I decided to just learn it. I then tried to whistle for three months whenever I was alone and suddenly one day, it was whistling and not just wind-sounds.
Depends on what you consider winning. But for most people owning everything they can want is winning. For some it’s personal fulfillment, still money helps in that sense. So it’s a easy mode I guess.
Tying shoe laces. One day I could just do it without looking. Before then I couldn’t do it at all, way behind the class by about a year, an embarrassment to my parents.
Job… applications and interviews? The combination of constant rejection, fawning, self aggrandisement, and constantly changing arbitrary standards for all stages just does not gel at all with my combination of rejection sensitivity, slightly different fawning, self deprecation, and bucking against arbitrary social standards etc. I’ve only gotten one job ever from cold calling since I started applying in 2004. Every other time I’ve known someone, and it’s usually a few years between jobs
Interacting with people. As teen i sucked at social interaction but as an adult I started getting the hang of it. Now I look at other people and I think I can do it better than most. A smile and tidy clothes go a long way.
I would say I agree with this, but also just navigating social interactions at work. As I’ve got my life together in the last few years, I’ve grown increasingly shocked at how many of my coworkers just… can’t get over simple adult challenges like avoiding hanger by eating normally timed meals/keeping their tempers in check, recognizing and isolating insecurities. These are things that take time to overcome, certainly, but the bare minimum is the bottom of the pyramid of needs, and I see well-paid people failing at them constantly.
I think that I learned a lot about basic work courtesy as a younger person but didn’t actually understand how to practice it and communicate healthily and positively with others until just recently. Probably because I had my own insecurities and issues holding me back.
Snapping my fongers. People tried to teach me throughout my childhood, but zi just couldn’t get it. Then, when I was maybe sixteen or so, I had a dream that someone taught me to snap, and in the dream I could do it! I woke up from that dream snapping my fingers, and have been able to do it ever since.
I guess my unconscious mind finally put all the pieces together and it all finally just, pun intended, clicked.
I remember when I was in primary school it was told that it wasn’t actually the amplified sound of your finger slapping against your palm and cavity formed by other fingers, but pockets of nitrogen in your knuckles. This made it harder for some kids to do it.
I started getting into music in 2017, couldn’t make a song for shit until 2023 I finally got to a decent spot. Though even then I have a lot of failed attempts still but I think that’s normal.
Hey that’s about when I started! And I also have a LOOOOT of awful stuff, but only now am I starting to occasionally make stuff that I don’t immediately hate.
Currently participating in Weekly Beats, which is something I’d never have considered even a year ago.
Of course, I’ll be learning the entire rest of my life, so…
A good playlist and somewhere interesting to explore make it great, but I also just love running. I bring running shoes when I travel: there’s nothing like running through a new city as a tourist.
That last bit gives me a ton of anxiety just thinking about it. Do you map out where you can run before you go to a new place? How do you just like run on the sidewalk if it ends up congested with too many people? Do you only run in nearby parks?
Sorry if these are weird questions! I legitimately want to know!
I always research unsafe areas for tourists when traveling to a new city, so when I run with my phone map I have a general idea of where I should avoid. Otherwise, I just turn down random streets, though populated and well lit ones. As to large crowds, I have only had this issue occasionally: just be ready to walk and don’t be a nuisance to others. If it’s a rural area, I mostly worry about surprise hills, not safety.
If it’s a foreign country I am especially cautious as running is not really a hobby in many places. I wanted to go for a run by myself in Guatemala, but eventually decided that i wouldn’t outside of very touristy areas or very rural areas. I had a great time running alone in downtown Montreal with minimal research. It depends on the country, so pay attention to local cultural norms and dress codes.