This adult is excited to ride his motorcycle home after work, excited to take an edible and play whatever video game I have been playing, go ride bicycles with my kid, maybe read a book, and definitely practice cooking. When it’s bedtime I have to go lie down next to a nice thick woman with long red hair and a sex drive that I am doing my best to keep up with.
I don’t understand why I have this life. I wish others could be as happy.
If you believe something as common as this is sufficient to diagnose a mental disorder, you might’ve been misdiagnosed (or your diagnosis was explained insufficiently).
My friend, you think this likely because your family exhibits these traits (genetics) as do your friends(attracted to like groups). You’re using two ADHD meme traits, like thinking everyone feels this way and using extra parentheses (for bonus content). I bet you’ve also been told that you’re not living up to your potential (and that’s true!).
If you want something objective, have a coffee or two at 6pm and see if you’re still able to fall asleep that night. The neuro typical folks would be unable to quiet down their brain.
I think something is wrong with me then. When I start something early it normally ends up with me losing momentum part way through, stopping for ages, then having to work like mad at the end anyway. That or I end up changing project idea and having to start again. Both of these ended up happening with my dissertation.
Like even when I start stuff at the right time it goes to shit. Somehow when I do stuff last minute it mostly turns out fine.
Procrastination is good, it takes you were you naturally want to be and what you intuitively think is right. Starting early and forcing yourself through things you don’t care about is not productive.
But isn’t that like making excuses for yourself tho? I usually did the same as the parent commenter did. But if there’s an especially critical task that I cannot afford to ignore I use something like pomodoro timer to keep my attention span in check. Barring an external distraction – getting more of this as I’m getting more senior in my current work + kids when working remotely (ノಥ,_｣ಥ)ノ彡┻━┻ – this method usually works.
It works, although you need to really stick to only working during the work time. I tried it when writing my thesis and miraculously I managed to work on it basically the whole day, from morning till night. Since then I’ve been using it sporadically when there’s an important work because for it to work for me I need to lock myself up so as to not get distracted by other people.
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