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dyani

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AuDHD, curator of information, optimist at my core, lover of all souls, leftist, hobby switcher, graphic designer, UX and accessibility learner, artist.

Trying to embody the inclusivity, deep acceptance, and safety I believe we all deserve.

I share things that make me happy, things that make me think, things that are helpful to know for me & for others. Lots of leftist, neurodiversity, cats, and digital art fall into those categories.

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melindrea , to actuallyautistic
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One of my least favourite bits about "allistic people/researchers discussing autistic people" in this weird pathological way that's just ... incorrect!

Like "autistic people have restricted interests". Uh-huh. You're telling me that if I talk to an allistic person, no matter what we talk about they will have an interest in it? Oh, they don't? huh. But that's not them having restricted interests? Gotcha.

Or "pathological need for fairness" ... why is it a bad thing to want things to be fair and acting the same whether or not someone is watching?

*grumbles in @actuallyautistic *

dyani ,
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@melindrea @actuallyautistic I love reading the flipped scripts people sometimes make up to poke fun at allistic people. i am not great at it but it's stuff like "pathologically shallow interest levels", "inclination for unfairness", etc 😆

dyani , to actuallyautistic
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Any other autistic kin struggle with speech and articulation when they were little?

I'm recording an instructional voice-over today and my mom just told me I used to have a lisp when I was little. That's news to me!

I definitely notice sludgy articulation around L and S sound as an adult. Outside of voice over recording, I could not care less about my articulation. But it is interesting!

@actuallyautistic

dyani OP ,
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@skinnylatte @actuallyautistic I've heard of that with other autistic people! That's pretty cool honestly.

dyani OP ,
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@brooke @actuallyautistic i do that too!! i wouldn't mind taking a few vocal coaching lessons just about that specific issue, if i had disposable income!

dyani OP ,
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@benjamincox @dave @actuallyautistic NTs definitely think about the photo thing, because being on camera is such a frequent thing in today's life! And yeah that's how I speak too. My hypothesis is my body is trying to conserve energy so it always defaults to least muscle movement & energy consumption as possible

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@Mux

ah that's reassuring and good to know!

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dyani , to actuallyautistic
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I can tell when I need to lower the volume of something I'm listening to when I feel a kind of tightening in my ear muscles, and/or ringing in my ears, or a slight feeling of stress coming in from my environment.

I also just try to remember to always proactively lower the volume a couple ticks from what i first set it at, to prevent all those sensations.

What are the signs for you that things are a little too loud?

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@dave @actuallyautistic

oh yeah same. that's maybe the biggest sign that it's happening.

dyani OP ,
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@ZippyWonderdust @actuallyautistic definitely not alone!!!

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@Thebratdragon @dave @actuallyautistic wow that's so smart!!

dyani , to actuallyautistic
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Yesterday was my 1 year AuDHD anniversary!

1 year since the most life-changing realization ever. My resting heart rate dropped by ~10 points after I figured it out.

Knowing this about myself has given me so much peace & confidence. It's given me even more compassion for myself and others. I advocate for my needs now, and I have better boundaries.

Every day I marvel at how amazing we ND folks are, and how much we bring to the world.

I so appreciate this community!

@actuallyautistic

dyani OP ,
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@everyday_human @actuallyautistic thank you ❤️ yes the diversity is soooo lovely here! i learn so much all the time

dave , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Saw this at the pharmacy and picked it up... curious to see what it says.

dyani ,
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@dave @actuallyautistic that's awesome. i wonder if this a case of editors choosing the headlines and writers having no say in how their writing gets titled?

dyani ,
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@Susan60 @dave @actuallyautistic yeah! that too.

LehtoriTuomo , to actuallyautistic

Reading about autism and processing what it means in my case is very interesting. But maybe most of all, it's a relief. As I start to write this toot, tears come to my eyes.

I've kicked myself so many times in different situations for not being smart enough. I guess my doctoral degree is counter-proof. Anyway, I've struggled with my identity as a scientist a lot. This has happened especially at conferences. I've felt so out of place there. I haven't been able to discuss many topics. I haven't been able to follow all the talks.

Or when discussing a topic with a research group, I haven't been able to come up with ideas or solutions to problems. Not on the spot, but when I've had the same information in writing and have been going over it on my own, it's been so much clearer.

Therapy worked wonders with understanding what my strengths are. However, it's been even bigger relief to understand that I'm autistic and how it has affected my life. It explains so much.

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dyani ,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic i'm so happy for you! When i identified I was autistic, my resting heart rate dropped drastically, and i have the data to prove it. It really is a huge relief knowing we are not broken.

i struggle with taking in information in certain situations too. i try to request multiple formats of information (ex: worksheet or agenda for a training session/meeting, closed captions, audiobooks along with regular books) so i can try to fill in the gaps for myself.

dyani , to actuallyautistic
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Hmm is this an ND thing?

Ever since I can remember, I have strongly disliked pranks and have been against humor at the expense of someone else (making fun of them).

I know nice NT people also feel this way but I've felt this strongly since a very young age. Anyone else?

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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic i think that's the key reason we don't like it, but that doesn't quite explain the young age thing. or maybe i had already experienced enough of it to form that opinion?? sad!

PossiblyAutistic , to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic Is there something like a neurodivergent mentoring network? Just learnt about identity-based mentoring in the NPR Lifekit podcast.

dyani ,
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@PossiblyAutistic @actuallyautistic

i don't know but that's a brilliant idea 💡

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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If you know, you know.

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dyani ,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic

You can turn the sound off!!! There are hidden commands for lots of major microwave brands!! For mine it was holding down the 0 button. Just do a search and see what comes up online.

It's been a sanity saver for me.

I have a lifetime of habit I have to break and still stop it at one second left maybe half the time 😂

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