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call me: fox or Yonah (my Hebrew name) 💜 they/them or fae/faer 💜 nonbinary changeling 💜 Jewitch 💜 disabled 💜 trans, bi, aroace-ish, solo polyam 💜 fat-positive 💜 I play video games 💜 casual profanity 💜 communist

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ninsiana0 , to bookstodon
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Read PALADIN'S GRACE by T. Kingfisher if you love crises of faith, tremendous loss, feeling broken beyond repair, trudging onward, perfume, meet cutes but make them deadly, killers on the loose, gingerbread, best friends, political intrigue, assassination attempts, amazing kisses & civets.

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agenderfox ,
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@ninsiana0 @bookstodon I TOLD YOU IT WAS GOOD

agenderfox , to bookstodon
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started listening to by @Catvalente yesterday. I got about a chapter and a half in before Link started meowing at me at the top of his lungs and I could no longer pay attention to/hear it

he seems a little less needy today, so I'm rewinding to the start of chapter two and trying again. it's EXTREMELY entertaining so far 😅 "all the groupies you can eat"

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agenderfox , to bookstodon
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currently reading "You Just Need to Lose Weight" and 19 Other Myths About Fat People by Aubrey Gordon (co-host of ), which states:

"In 2004, the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) published 'Actual Causes of Death in the United States, 2000,' the study that first trumpeted that some four hundred thousand Americans died each year simply from being fat."

I already have some idea of how this story will go, from listening to Maintenance Phase's episode on The French Paradox*, and my little goblin brain wants to publish a study of Actual Causes of Death that proves that some millions of Americans die each year "under mysterious circumstances"

  • the TL;DR version is: "cause of death is very hard to actually determine and is influenced to a great degree by policies and how forms are designed"

for the whole story, check the episode out:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/79PcksGTHF5qIhqjNEftLm

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agenderfox , to bookstodon
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"mountain was probably an exaggeration, but the hills in this land had ambitions"
-T. Kingfisher, Paladin's Strength, book two of The Saint of Steel

probably the best description of topography I've ever read

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agenderfox OP ,
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"god damn sexy evergreens"

  • also T. Kingfisher, Paladin's Strength, book two of The Saint of Steel

this book is killing me

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agenderfox OP ,
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"sophisticated canoodling"

  • also T. Kingfisher, Paladin's Strength, book two of The Saint of Steel

oh my GOD

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autism101 , to actuallyautistic
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Did you get labeled as a “picky eater” when you were growing up?

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agenderfox ,
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@autism101 @actuallyautistic not really, but I ate ham sandwiches nearly every school lunch of my K-12 existence, and my friends told me I would get tired of them but I never did

my sister recently told me that the smell of oranges and popcorn always reminds her of me, bc when I got home from school, I would always snack on one or the other (still do!)

I'm guessing I might have been called picky if my parents had insisted on me eating different/more varied foods, but 🤷🏻

agenderfox , to bookstodon
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just finished A Psalm for the Wild-Built by Becky Chambers, which made me cry 😭

I'm not good at writing reviews, but this book made me feel so seen. Dex is me; I too have a wandering heart; I too feel a constant war between needing to throw away everything I've built to seek a new purpose and dreading starting over, again

I love the religion in the book; I love the God of Small Comforts. I love the tea ceremony. I LOVE Mosscap so much. and I fucking love that the entire book is basically two people: one who uses they pronouns, and the other who uses it pronouns.

anyway, you should probably read it. I'm going to start A Prayer for the Crown-Shy now

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agenderfox OP ,
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just finished book two: A Prayer for the Crown-Shy

didn't make me cry, but it was still lovely

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agenderfox , to random
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wait, how did Jake go from like 4 years old to 12 in only 3 years???

also I can no longer watch the opening of without hearing Ransom saying "just circle around and pretend we're in awe of the pylons"

agenderfox OP ,
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the first thing I do when I get a new phone is turn off audio and haptic feedback ... the scene where O'Brien is trying to move the space station made me realize that would be hell for me @actuallyautistic

ninsiana0 , to bookstodon
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Hey. It's ok if you're behind on your yearly reading goal. That number was arbitrarily chosen in a January fog of optimism & champagne anyway, and you don't need to turn something you love & brings you comfort into a stressor. Read good books. Enjoy them. Be gentle with yourself.

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agenderfox ,
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@diazona @ninsiana0 @bookstodon ooh, I've been thinking about rereading the Wheel of Time series since the show came out ... maybe I'll start in January

agenderfox , to bookstodon
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just started listening to In An Absent Dream, book 4 of by @seananmcguire, and holy fuck, get out of my brain. how she managed to create my exact childhood likeness in the character of Katherine Victoria Lundy, aged 6-8, I'll never know

I'm really enjoying this series, and I'm only 30 minutes into book 4, but it's my favorite so far (special thanks to @ninsiana0 for the recommendation)

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cynaq , (edited ) to actuallyautistic
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I just did that test.

I went in blind and didn't think I'd score too high because as far as I understand what monotropism proposes, I didn't think it fit my profile very well. I tried to answer the questions as accurately as I could, without overthinking.

Well...

The result says I'm more monotropic than 73% of autistic people and 98% of allistic people.

I guess I was misunderstanding what monotropism would feel like, if these results are anywhere near accurate, because I'm quite surprised, to say the least.

Would anyone else like to chime in and discuss this with me a bit? This result was not at all what I was expecting.

@actuallyautistic

Edit: this is the questionnaire https://dlcincluded.github.io/MQ/

agenderfox ,
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@cynaq @anomalon @jake2 @quietmarc @sentient_water @samiam @actuallyautistic

I want to see a study where they do this style of questionnaire, but the options are:

  • doesn't everyone?
  • not sure
  • it depends
  • people do that?
  • this is a bad question and here's why:

I just think it would be interesting

agenderfox , to actuallyautistic
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my girlfriend found this, and it's ... indescribable, what this means to me. my Hebrew name is Yonah, bc I felt so drawn to him as a biblical character, and yet I wasn't fully able to put my connection to him into words, until this article

"We know why Jonah runs because the prophet himself tells us at the end of the text. Jonah objects that God spares the Assyrians the consequences of their actions. They have done evil and they do not deserve to retain their status as the capital of the Assyrian Empire. Jonah is not particularly impressed with the fasting and the public repentance; but he knows that God finds such behavior acceptable and averts their doom. If Jonah knows that there will be no real change and that Nineveh’s might and cruelty will ride roughshod over his people, why should he prophecize to them? Why do they not deserve justice?"

@actuallyautistic @mazeldon

https://www.yeshivatmaharat.org/post/finding-justice-in-jonah

agenderfox OP ,
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the idea of my namesake as an autistic dude who has no interest in participating in the absolution of bullies and abusers, who is "grieved unto death" over the loss of a giant plant, who struggled with haShem and is RIGHT ... it makes my name and my identity fit me more than I knew when I first chose them

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AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Autistic people are often criticised for “reading too much into things” and “assuming” the worst, but usually what we deduce is highly accurate, thanks to our pattern-spotting and dot-connecting abilities. I think the real issue is we typically unearth truths others want to remain hidden.

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agenderfox ,
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@hollybrigstocke @Vincarsi @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic so, the original post specifically talks about how we (autistic folks) are often accused of "reading too much into things", and then in your first response, you say "I wouldn't read too much into that"

I'm assuming you didn't say that on purpose to be rude/dismissive, but that is how it comes off

I do have responses to your arguments, but I don't want to make you feel like you're being attacked, so let me know if you're interested in discussing this further

agenderfox ,
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@Vincarsi @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic yeah, I get that. I really want to give ppl the benefit of the doubt, and I value having conversations over piling on ppl, etc, but having glanced at her page, I'm not holding my breath that she's going to come back and actually engage, which is too bad

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