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Not conservative.

I’ve gotten very very used to being asked for titles on forms and the like. I’ve gotten used to respecting other peoples’ pronouns.

I have not gotten used to being asked for my own, and I don’t like it.

I understand that you can look just like me while having a gender identity that does not match my own—some men like to present in a feminine manner sometimes while still being men, and some people are non-binary, third gender, agender, etc. but might still dress in a very feminine way for whatever reason. To cover all your bases, ask pronouns, because guessing “she/her” at a feminine presentation in a body with a feminine shape won’t always be right. If you want to maximize your chances of being correct, you need to ask.

But whenever I’m asked, I also wonder if I’ve presented in a way that signals anything other than “woman” (which frequently but does not always line up with feminine presentations from feminine bodies). Did I just totally fail at presenting the way I want to and if forced to assume you’d guess I’m third gender, or are you being inclusive and considering that people who present like me aren’t always women? It’s the privileged, cis-woman version of “did you have to ask because I failed hard at passing, or did I pass and you just ask everyone this because not everyone conforms to the gender binary?” I’m really used to my gender being assumed and assumed correctly, and am not comfortable with people being unsure or even assuming wrong. I’m basically getting a microdose of what many non-cis, non-binary, and/or nongenderconforming people have to deal with, and I don’t like it.

I also understand it is probably for the benefit of most people (I’m aware of some non-cis people also disliking people asking pronouns, with reasons being along the lines of “please assume, I’m a binary trans person and asking makes me worry I don’t pass” or “I’m in the closet right now and asking my pronouns makes me choose between outing myself and misgendering myself” and it’s worth finding some solution for this) for asking to be normalized, so I let my personal discomfort and dislike go. After I ask if they asked pronouns because they honestly thought it’s super likely I don’t use she/her in which case oh god what do I change so I can make the assumption be that I use she/her, or if it’s just them trying to be inclusive and cover all bases which is good and respectable.

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It might also just be that the person asking you just always asks.

did I pass and you just ask everyone this because not everyone conforms to the gender binary?”

… I already brought up that possibility :(

Why does everyone make such a fuss about privacy?

In the context of VPNs for example. Some VPNs store and provide information about what sites you go to third parties. Third parties analyze it and figure out what adds to show you. Hmm… then let them show me those adds they want to show me. I do hate adds as a whole and use an add blocker, thus. But I couldn’t care less what...

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I probably should care about what big companies are doing with my data, but honestly I feel I’ll just be one more person in a group of a million. Companies won’t care.

What I’m scared of is stuff like the example above. A dedicated person trying to connect my online identity to my real-life one.

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I’m cool with telling people in real life almost anything about me sans my SSN and passwords. I don’t consider any of it personal and have probably too much trust in random strangers.

I still recognize others might not be like me, and don’t shame them for their choice to not share details they consider personal. Even if it’s something like what their favorite food is. A little weird in my opinion, but I’m still not entitled to that information.

I’m also aware of how people can use information against you. I trust you not to go trying to commit identity theft with my birthday and SSN and real name, but a bad actor scraping the web for SSNs totally will. So I have to hide some things. I’m definitely not ashamed I was born on DD-MM-YYYY with the name Firstname Lastname and assigned the SSN 000-00-0000, but I also know people will use this combination of information in order to harm me. Is their intent to hurt me specifically? Probably not, they just want to spend money that is not theirs. Will I get hurt anyways? Yes. And if I’m not careful about it, a lot of other information about me (like my hobbies, the way I type, etc.) can be used to link my online identities together and eventually find one of them that tells you I am Firstname Lastname, and a different online identity that tells you I was born DD-MM-YYYY (I should probably go scrub my birthday off everything). This, even without the SSN, is enough to get you trusted as being me for a lot of things, like when you call into a pharmacy. And I ask the customer service person to pass on my complaint about that about 10% of the times I call into such places where the security should probably be tighter. My SSN might be harder to find because I don’t talk about what it is, but I hear they get bought and sold online pretty often. Some website that did need my SSN gets hacked, and now that’d be ripe for the taking too.

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As another user said, it’s good to ask these questions. We shouldn’t shame people for asking. I’d rather ask a question and look stupid for needing to ask it once, than be ignorant forever. Could they have just searched “why should I care about privacy” online and gotten tons of answers? Yes. I’d also imagine that not everyone grew up with the norm of exhausting all other avenues of information before you ask other people for help.

As for how they asked the question, I’m just reading it as them saying they don’t care about privacy, not that we’re all idiot twats for caring. I think it’s an honest question, not a disingenuous “why does anyone care, you shouldn’t and you’re all stupid if you do.”

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I totally get your point about the vegetarian forum and agree with you, but this is c/asklemmy, not c/privacy. I’ve been around the Fediverse long enough to know it’s generally a pro-privacy environment, not everyone else has been.

Again, I’m really not seeing the “I don’t see why anyone else should” part in their question, I suppose we’re interpreting it differently.

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Once I wondered why everyone cared so much about something I didn’t. I wanted to give what seemed like most of the world the benefit of the doubt instead of dismissing their care as invalid and stupid, so I sat and thought about it and came up with a guess.

My guess was way off base. It correctly explained some tertiary aspects of why people cared, but totally missed the primary reasons. And until I had it explained to me, I probably would have continued to miss the primary reasons for my entire life. Sometimes it’s useful to get the answer from the horse’s mouth instead of guessing on your own.

But I definitely understand the bit about people getting upset when the things they care about are invalidated. One of my Things is people just assuming the best of each other or at least not namecalling each other when assuming the best is foolish or impractical, so I reacted to your comment and wondered if I should have because half the time I get a nice exchange like this one we’re having, and half the time I get some condescending, snarky replies. And the condescending replies feel very bad.

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I definitely haven’t seen questions like this asked at all, let alone repeatedly, which is probably where part of my patience comes from.

wait, why is everyone so interested in everything I do all of a sudden? Why is every corporation suddenly collecting all my data and giving me free stuff in return while raking in billions of profits? Hm, sus

This never occurred to me. I found articles about privacy and the risks that were out there as a young child, way before I noticed any kind of change in levels of privacy (didn’t notice any change myself). As a kid I wasn’t aware that certain corporations were making billions, I just enjoyed the free ride and then saw all the articles about privacy risks. And nothing bad ever happened to me and I didn’t see articles about bad things happening to people, so I still didn’t care (after all, I was on Android, I could just… deny this app permission to access something, problem solved! At least that is what I thought) until I saw someone get doxxed. I’m 18+ now, but sometimes you have kids online who don’t obviously seem like kids because you can’t see them online, and thEy Arent TypIng l11k3 dis!!!! or making constant baysic english lenguige missteaks but use regular English at the same level of fluency as adults. If you transplanted my 10-year old personality into a 10-year old today I could easily see them getting on the Fediverse and passing for an adult for awhile, because my 10-year old self spoke and wrote basically the same way I do now, minus the swear words and life experience.

And also, the fact is most people just don’t care about stuff until it affects them or someone close to them. It sounds nasty and I want to be better than this, but the fact remains we all have a limited amount of care and energy to go around. I mostly try to fix my own issues, not exacerbate anyone or dismiss anyone else’s, and help out where I can.

I’d imagine if you’re not in tech circles you also don’t find out much about privacy risks. I really try to extend the benefit of the doubt to people, give a way they could reasonably not know things, because I know I’m arrogant and want to counteract my own “oh my god how do you not know that you fucking idiot lmao I’m so much better and smarter than you” tendencies. And I truly cannot know what things are actually like outside of my experience, at most I can just read about them and get some idea.

Instance Protectionism in the Threadiverse happens because of the Prisoner’s Dilemma (protecting one's own instance is currently more sensible than increasing overall discussion quality) (lemmy.world)

As a moderator of a Lemmy instance, you currently have two options to take: pushing users first to your local content or content from all instances you federate with. These options come with the costs seen in the picture. The moderator of another instance has the same choice. However, in this scenario, they will both always...

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I do the exact same as you, with the exception of a few topic-specific instances, where the local communities are only about that topic. There I will actually use Local as default.

At least on my Kbin instance, going in All and Local opens me up to doom-and-gloom “big corporation and alt-right bad” news and outrage bait.

I agree wholeheartedly with “big corporation and alt-right bad” and that they’re the cause of too many of the world’s big serious problems. I’d also rather spend my time on Kbin enjoying what I see instead of getting mad. I can already find out what horrible thing a corporation or alt-right politician has done from the regular news, without the understandable but exhausting comment chain of outrage.

Even without an algorithm shoving it down your throat, outrage bait will rise to popular status on its own. Unfortunately, getting mad at and feeling superior to the idiotsincars, choosingbeggars, etc. is kind of crack to our brains. I’m no exception, which is why I have to only look at /sub. I have to keep it out of sight, because if it’s in my feed, I’ll click on it and get mad too.

So how do I find new stuff? There’s a lot of communities out there whose purpose is to advertise other communities. I subscribe to those.

List of specific video game communities on the Threadiverse, feel free to comment with more

When I mean “specific,” I mean things like something dedicated to a certain genre, a certain video game, to gaming suggestions, to asking whether you should buy a certain game… anything that isn’t just one catch-all for any video gaming topic. So I’m not including the various !games@instance or !gaming@instance links....

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Added. Not a fan of gacha titles myself whatsoever, but gacha titles are still games and this is a list to help others. Have you tried posting in various “new community” magazines like https://lemmy.world/c/newcommunities?

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Before I add these, would you mind putting all the ones for the same platform, even if it's less active? I added all the ones I know of so it feels weird to suddenly be more exclusive about it. I'm aware there are some posts here that probably have communities on other instances that aren't listed, but I don't expect each submitter to actively know about every single community for their game. The reason I'm requesting this of you is because you actually went and found all the communities, and I want to include the ones you chose not to submit due to size as well. If you're not willing to go get the ones you chose not to submit, I'll go hunt them down myself, but to be honest I'd rather not so I'm making the request of you.

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It's already there. https://lemmy.world/c/legendofzelda

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This is rather frustrating for me. I was corrected on a different post when I used @community@instance and told to use !community@instance. Now I'm being told I got it wrong again. Not angry at you, just angry that I got it wrong twice.

I was told to use !community@instance because it would leave people able to browse and subscribe to the community through their own instance instead of being kicked to a different URL (e.g. !community@instance lets you browse and subscribe from @instance, while @magazine kicks you to the instance.com website), so that's what I'm using here. I am currently under the impression that viewing from your own instance also means you won't see any content unless someone on your instance has subscribed to that community before, as an intentional part of how the Fediverse works; while going to the instance.com website directly will show you everything. That's probably why my links send kbin users to a search result: because on kbin, from the search result you can click and look at the instance or subscribe without ever leaving your own instance.

When you say the correct way to link a magazine is @community@instance for kbin, do you mean I should do it that way for links that point to a kbin instance, or is that how I have to format links to any instance at all (whether lemmy or kbin or even something else like Mastodon) for it to work properly for kbin users? Or is this just about wishing that I sent you to the instance's website with all the content instead of somewhere you can view through your own instance? If it's the latter, I'm really not sure what the etiquette is for what I'm supposed to send you to: your own instance or the source instance, seeing as I am getting corrected about this here to use @community@instance for you but was previously told to use !community@instance.

Once people stop commenting with new communities I can comment the list with links formatted as @community@instance.

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Added. By the way, the way to make that a clickable link is @[email protected]. In general, follow the pattern @magazineName@instanceName.

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Added. By the way, the way to make that a clickable link is [email protected], just like what the sidebar of your home instance says. In general, follow the pattern !communityName@instanceName.

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Typing in !community@instance and submitting the comment makes it look like !community for me. I typed in !community@instance here: https://kbin.cafe/search?q=community@instance

Typing in @community@instance and submitting the comment makes it look like @community for me. I typed in @community@instance here: @community

I see you're on kbin.social, and I'm from kbin.cafe, so we should probably be seeing the same things. Not sure what's happening here.

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Added, thank you so much for finding them!

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I think there's a good use for the individual communities. If everyone posted stuff about their games in a generic game community I think it would turn a lot of people off. I wouldn't want to see a constant influx of posts where I actually like only 1/8 of the games being talked about and don't understand or like the other 7/8. The general gaming communities tend to stick to big gaming news or topics most gamers might have some input on. You probably don't want a community that started out with conversations you can join in on to be overrun with my favorite niche game in a genre you hate with an artstyle you hate, but that also happens to have a super active Threadiverse community. I completely get what you're saying, the Threadiverse is pretty small and a lot of specific magazines just don't get content at a decent rate, but I appreciate that we have separate communities.

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Added Dead Space and The Sinking City. Not adding Mad Max for the same reason I would refuse to add a generic Star Wars community but would allow a Knights of the Old Republic community: it's not overwhelmingly likely to be majority-gaming posts. If there was a community for just the Mad Max game, I'd be happy to add it.

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A lot of those links will not work, because they have the order of the instance and community name swapped. It's !communityName@instanceName, not !instanceName@communityName. If you want what I've got so far in a more horizontal format like what you posted, here you go. I will not be updating this format, except maybe at the end after everyone's stopped submitting communities.

Game Design/Development

https://programming.dev/c/destroy_my_game https://programming.dev/c/game_design https://kbin.social/m/gamedev (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.blahaj.zone) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.ml) https://programming.dev/c/gamedev (programming.dev) https://programming.dev/c/godot https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (I Need A Team) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected]

Games

https://lemmy.ml/c/2007scape (lemmy.ml) https://lemmy.world/c/2007scape (lemmy.world) https://kbin.social/m/anothereden https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/baldurs_gate_3 https://lemmy.ca/c/battlebit https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/undertale_deltarune (lemmy.world) https://lemmy.fmhy.ml/c/deltarune (lemmy.fmhy.ml) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/diablo https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/drg https://kbin.social/m/DwarfFortress https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/girlsfrontline https://kbin.social/m/guildwars2 (kbin.social) https://lemmy.wtf/c/guildwars2 (lemmy.wtf) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.ml) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://lemmy.world/c/legendofzelda https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.social/m/Minecraft (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.ml) https://lemmy.world/c/minecraft (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/mountandblade https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.ml/c/pokemedia https://kbin.social/m/pokemon (kbin.social) https://lemmy.ml/c/pokemon (lemmy.ml) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.ca/c/rocket_league (lemmy.ca) https://lemmy.world/c/rocketleague (lemmy.world) https://lemmy.world/c/satisfactory https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (citizensgaming.com) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.ml) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/thesims https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/touhou https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.social/m/wow https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected]

Genres

https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://feddit.de/c/automation_games https://feddit.de/c/cozygames https://lemmy.world/c/incremental_games https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://lemmy.zip/c/jrpg (lemmy.zip) https://lemmy.world/c/lifesimulation https://kbin.social/m/Otomegames https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.comfysnug.space/c/visualnovels

Miscellaneous

https://feddit.uk/c/currentlyplaying https://feddit.uk/c/freegames https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://lemmy.world/c/gamingcirclejerk https://kbin.social/m/GirlGames https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.social/m/OldGames4OldGamers https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://sh.itjust.works/c/patientgamers (sh.itjust.works) https://feddit.uk/c/photomode https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://lemmy.world/c/retrogaming (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.social/m/truegaming

Platforms

https://lemmy.world/c/3ds https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.sdf.org) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (sopuli.xyz) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (sh.itjust.works) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.ca) https://retrolemmy.com/c/dosgaming https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.social/m/linux_gaming (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (linux.ml) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://lemmy.world/c/nintendo https://kbin.social/m/NintendoSwitch https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.social/m/PCGaming https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://sopuli.xyz/c/steamdeck (sopuli.xyz) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (kbin.social) https://kbin.cafe/[email protected] (lemmy.world)

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Different people will be different, I find big gaming news interesting to talk about and don't want to see games from genres I have no interest in. I definitely see your point about active communities and how a more general community might bringing up stuff that you don't like enough to follow but do like enough to have a casual conversation about it!

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Not saying this resentfully, honestly curious. What need does reposting my post as a comment with the instance names that I had in parentheses removed fulfill, what benefit is gained? I put the instance names there for communities that have the same name or close to it, and/or cover the same thing, so that you can tell the various same-name links apart. If it does something useful, I'll be happy to repost this when no more links are submitted with the instance names taken off. Is this kind of like what some people used to do on Reddit, reposting the post as a comment because otherwise mobile users would be unable to copy/paste the content?

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I've actually been using [email protected] for this entire post, from the very start. Is it behaving as if I didn't do that for you?

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I did use the Lemmy style.

I was told to use !community@instance… so that's what I'm using here

This is also what constantly pops up in Lemmy sidebars.

You are not logged in. However you can subscribe from another Fediverse account, for example Lemmy or Mastodon. To do this, paste the following into the search field of your instance: !communityName@instanceName

Unless you mean that the Lemmy style is just !community, you don’t type @instanceName after it. Did you mean that?

I was under the impression the way I typed the links would work for everyone. I suppose I was taught incorrectly and I’m extremely frustrated by it. I don’t want to be the village idiot trying to help only to require everyone fix their mistakes for them but it seems that’s what I am right now.

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I can’t actually see the source of the OP of this chain on kbin.

I’m going to be honest, I have no idea why this is happening. I never thought I would be the idiot who would have to have other users reformat their unusable links and I’m upset that I am apparently that idiot and I’m incredibly frustrated by it. I thought !communityName@instanceName and @communityName@instanceName were supposed to work across the Fediverse so I didn’t have to resort to [text I want to display](URL) every time I wanted to share a community, I guess not. I cannot grasp why some of these are not working for people and are sending everyone to a kbin.cafe search link, even if they’re from Lemmy. Especially since when I used @communityName@instanceName on a different post, I was told by a Lemmy user that !communityName@instanceName was instance-agnostic and would let you access the community through your own instance. Not through mine (kbin.cafe). And that I shouldn’t use @communityName@instanceName because it would send everyone straight to that instance, where if it isn’t also your instance you’re probably not logged in so interacting would be inconvenient.

I wanted to make a helpful resource, not something people have to spend time fixing because it doesn’t work and I’m very upset that 1) it had to be fixed for me and 2) I can’t understand how to fix it myself. Apparently @communityName@instanceName should be equivalent to [text I want to display](URL) but given that listening to that Lemmy user didn’t work out for my current links I have no idea if swapping the ! for @ would actually work. Plus even if it did, interacting from your own instance would be inconvenient.

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I think you are right, considering there’s an issue on Codeberg directly referencing my post.

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Added the games, skipped the communities that are specifically about your mods for games. That feels a lot more self-promotional.

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