To play the devils advocate here, maybe music man has gotten ridiculed before with this question on his music preference. When I’m driving by myself, I’ll fire up youtube and listen to all sorts of random stuff. But I’d never subject my wife to it as I know we don’t share interest in some things.
For sure, dude could have just been more blunt right away about not wanting to share that info (still strange, or maybe just embarrased?). I’ve never used a dating app, so IDK.
I don’t have an answer for that. I’m not saying he handled it right, just trying to come up with some sort of mindset he may have had to respond like this at all.
I’d think it would feel bad having to lie about the music you listen to. Maybe music man is already past denial and in acceptance, just not telling anyone.
Not an ideal in forming relationships. Honestly, as much of a train wreck as his response was, at least it gave some useful information to the person he would potentially be dating.
People don’t respect the Colgate Comedy Hour anymore, this is why we don’t have genius like Paul Bufano or Roy Donkins anymore. Her music collection must be all meat and potatoes.
You’ve presumably had conversations with your wife, though, where you shared, and she wasn’t into it. I dunno, at the least you were, perhaps, honest about not wanting to (or not being comfortable with) sharing.
Furthermore, it’s a song and she asked. No one is being subjected to anything. No one has to listen to the song named, or, if they do, even finish the song.
Unfortunately I was young, dumb and unlucky in love, so I put up with that BS for way too long. My advice to anyone in that position is definitely don't put up with it because you're worth more than the love these kinds of people give. A healthy relationship is built on mutual love and respect. You need to give it, but you also deserve it in return.
That’s the perfect moment to know if someone will ridicule you for your music choices. If it happens, you stop the conversation right there and save yourself the trouble of a awful first date.
Well, even saying that you can’t remember the song because you snorted cocaine out of your adult diaper is better than being a jerk.
My musical taste is cringe and my spouse has known it since we started dating years ago. Never felt the need to hide it from them. Good partners can respect each other’s preferences, so there’s zero need to hide what you enjoy.
People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.
Or he might just be an idiot.
Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.
In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free pussy pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.
Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work
Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.
Nah it’s one of those things where some guys just prefer to talk about what they think matters to everyone, their job or financial conditions, music or other personal stuff might just be an extra on their minds
No but it needs access to your front camera so it can record your face before and after using threads. They want to see if their engagement algorithms made you mad so then they can tell it’s working
Jfc man, thanks for the hot tip on the ddg tracker protection! I’ve been using ddg for a while now on the phone and have out some effort into curating apps so most of what I have is private/secure/open source, but I still have a bunch of things like the Netflix app that I know are sketchy. I’ve just gone through every app I have and confirmed things like Jerboa, VLC, antenna pod, etc are all free of trackers. The real fun surorises though were my bank app and my state government services app, which are each on about 45 tracking attempts across 36 categories. The services one even uses two seperste tracker companies. That’s super fun!
I got it running yesterday after seeing this thread. No noticeable difference to me, very noticeable difference to the online leech companies. I’m a happy camper
It’s working great. 36 hours in and more than 33,000 tracking attempts blocked. It’s mind boggling
And worst offenders are places I wouldn’t have expected, like the docusign app, and being scraped by companies I’ve never heard of like comScore and bugsnag
Oh ya you download the browser app, then turn on app tracker blocking in settings. I couldn’t find it at first, but just googled it and the first answer worked. So all ya need is the duckduckgo app. At least, on Android
Some, like location can be blocked and same for health & fitness. You can also tell iOS to not allow an app to track you but I don’t think that blocks everything. But say you allow access to “all photos” that means they can parse the exif data from all your photos and have map of everywhere they were taken.
This is nuts. Why would anyone let this through knowingly? I fight so hard to at least make as hard as possible for these assholes to collect info on me. People just this shit and agree to all of that without batting an eye.
Facebook I’m only comfortable using inside a browser for this reason, and not with Chrome either. Something proper like Firefox that can block third party cookies and run it in a container automatically so it can’t follow you around. I need to contain the filth.
Click on the shield icon in the upper left (on Desktop) and from there you can get into your tracking protection settings. It also has a dashboard showing what has been blocked. Categories are social media, tracking cookies, tracking content, fingerprinting, and cryptominers. Facebook containers are also built into Firefox on desktop. That feature is called Container Tabs and is in settings also.
On Firefox for Android, you go to the three dots thing -> Settings -> Enhanced Tracking Protection.
Most browsers today have something like this built-in because it’s such a problem, except Chrome, because Google is an ad company first and would be shooting their own foot.
There is also this official extension. IIRC, this also makes sure that all the meta owned sites are not able to interact with other sites, but can work fine with each other. It also makes sure that any links leading to their sites also only open in the container, maybe also sanitized to remove the tracker from original link. The last part I am not sure, as I might be confusing it with a different extension. But if you are using any of the Meta sites, I would recommend it.
This thread is great. I love how people are arguing against deleting your Reddit history by comparing their own history to the content in the Library of Alexandria. The Reddit hive mind and subreddit echo chamber had a lasting effect, it seems.
Well, they need to know your device rotation to serve you the perfect ads! /s
Seriously, I wouldn't mind them knowing a thing or two about me, when I'm using their services. But tracking everything, just because they can, is just obnoxious. If you would translate this to the real world, you would definitely get arrested when you would stand on the corner of the street, noting down everything you see, every dimension/detail of every person walking by. You would be labeled "creep". But if Facebook does it, governments go like: You can build your new data center right here, don't mind the measly peasants that currently live in the village nearby
Install the Duck Duck Go browser, and sign up for the “App Tracking Protection” beta in the settings. Once you are enabled for the beta. Enable it in the settings. It acts like a VPN on your device.
Firefox also has an option to block third party trackers by default if you choose their strict setting, but DuckDuckGo has a more comprehensive solution.
I just cannot fathom why people would see the shortest that Musk has made of Twitter and think the best solution is to go to a clone made by Zuckerberg. Have they learned nothing?
99% of times “stupidity” is just a lack of information and prospective who let people don’t see how someone else problem could very well become “their” problem too given enough time.
Because fundamentally, people really don't care about all that much. They want a simple social network that's vaguely pleasant to use, has the people and content they're looking for, and otherwise stays out of their way. They certainly don't care about Musk's random crusade du jour against the evil woke libs.
Nor do they particularly care about targeted advertising so long as it remains vaguely unobtrusive and their data isn't constantly leaked in ways that directly harm them. Zuck, for all his many flaws, is smart enough to know that the single biggest thing he can do is to largely stay out of the way.
This will completely empty out Twitter. It's just like that scene on Godzilla when both monsters are fighting and the science dude just says to "let them fight".
Yeah, kinda. The crowd that cares move to Mastodon, that crowd that chases moves to Threads.
Now, there is still value in Twitter as long as content creators and companies post there. When we see companies pull out and content creators en masse setting up shop somewhere else the end is coming. Huge communites that depend on being huge rarely if ever can return from a real downwards spiral.
You're already seeing a lot of the celebrities and brands move over. I imagine their replies being filled with normal people rather than the blue check crypto nerds is a pretty big draw.
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