As a guy who used to be on bumble (met my partner there) I will say that any conversation that started with ‘hey how’s it going’ just went nowhere 100% of the time. It’s so easy to ask literally anything else. We don’t know each other, what’s the point in asking how it’s going if all you’ll ever get as a reply is either “good, and you?” which doesn’t break any ice and introduces a lull on the conversation 4 messages into the chat or if it’s an honest “pretty shit, actually” the tone of the conversation becomes immediately weird because you don’t know each other enough to pry into that.
Things you could ask:
cuddled any cats lately?
what made you smile today/this week?
what song have you played on repeat lately?
play any games lately? (depending on if they list games as their interest, most matches I got listed board games)
This way you’ll immediately either find common ground or find differences between your everyday experiences that you can talk about.
I also met my partner there. I think it was asking her about some cats in her photos, and then walls of text about absolutely nothing. Thinking back on it, I sounded like a right nutjob, but hey it worked out
I have made countless attempts to make a personal statement about their pictures or interests and like zero responses. When I just do something stupid or not even think of it, an actual conversation.
I met my GF through bumble too but only because we knew each other and didn’t realize we both were divorced now. So I just texted her.
a handshake is a formality, it’s something you do to formalize an interaction, we’re formalizing an interaction on a platform that is so personally disconnected it might as well be irrelevant to begin with.
This isn’t two people in a room, you don’t need to get someones attention by saying “hey” you don’t need to open up to them by offering your hand for a handshake, you’re both there mutually for the purposes of talking, why wouldn’t you get straight to talking?
I don’t think assisted suicide is dystopian, I think it’s incredibly progressive and I wish it was more widely available. We give our pets more dignity in death than our loved ones and it sucks. The fact that we’ll keep a corpse animated for years just because we can’t let go is pretty fucking dystopian though.
I don’t like it because, as a person with chronic mental illness, it’s legitimizing me committing suicide rather than learning to cope with my symptoms. I already think too much about how nice it’ll be to be dead and not having to worry about dealing with my symptoms. If one day I decided that my life was no longer bearable, what’s the practical difference between me making an attempt on my own life that allegedly needs to be urgently stopped, and me going through months of paperwork and evaluations to do the same thing? If suicide is wrong, if we shouldn’t use a permanent solution for a temporary problem, then why should we turn it into a medical procedure? It feels dystopian because the medical industry, in my case, would be throwing up its hands and saying “you know what, you’re right, you’re completely broken and there’s no possible way to fix you. Let’s just kill you instead.”
What you’re referring to is called genocide. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of anyone promote euthanasia as a solution to depression, or any disability, outside fascism — and fuck those assholes. Their opinions are psychopathic and irrelevant.
This isn’t about you. Euthanasia is about personal freedom and choice. It’s about enabling the people who have terminal illnesses, and are guaranteed a slow and painful death, the ability to choose a painless death on their own terms. Watching my father die of dementia is what I imagine hell would be like. Forced to live in a prison of your own mind, unable to remember anyone or anything, or what happened a minute ago, for x number of years until you forget how to swallow, then die of pneumonia. That’s not something I’m willing to live through, and I’d prefer to choose to die a few years earlier to avoid it. The opposition to euthanasia directly causes millions of people to suffer needlessly. It removes their freedom and choice.
If that’s the case, then why does Canada allow people only with mental illnesses and addictions to seek out MAID? And how do you know for sure that this isn’t going to expand as a cost-cutting measure throughout any healthcare system that enables it?
Canada allow people only with mental illnesses and addictions to seek out MAID?
Because you believe bullshit, that isn’t true in the slightest? Currently, ONLY people who are terminally ill or suffering are allowed.
And how do you know for sure that this isn’t going to expand as a cost-cutting measure throughout any healthcare system that enables it?
I don’t. Healthcare professionals wouldn’t agree to that, but medical science can’t prevent a fascist government from using anything to murder undesirables. In fact I expect oligarchs around the world to commit genocide en masse due to climate change and mass automation/unemployment.
Euthanasia is voluntary. The moment it’s no longer voluntary it becomes murder/genocide. What you’re worried about is murder/genocide. Not euthanasia. You’re worried about the wrong thing.
I was mistaken in that it was currently available. However, they’re planning on making it available for solely mental conditions in the future and have been pushing the eligibility date back for a few years. The fact remains they think this is a good idea and want to do it.
Healthcare professionals wouldn’t agree to that…
They’re already agreeing to killing their patients to begin with. Healthcare decisions are made based on cost constantly. The door is open, anything is possible now. And not only that, but there have been plenty of unethical medical practices in history that are no longer done, like the lobotomy.
I was mistaken in my previous posts. I wasn’t aware that the effective date of MAID for mentally ill people had been pushed out again. But the fact remains it’s in the plans and it’s very likely to become a reality; if they didn’t want to do it, they would have revoked it entirely.
They’re talking about expanding it to allow terminally ill people with mental illnesses to access maid, not saying that you must be mentally ill to receive it.
MAID is also for people who live, by some measure, intolerably painful lives for which there isn’t a treatment IIRC. Many mental disorders could be classified as such and make someone eligible for MAID. This will disincentivize people from trying to treat these disorders and instead “end people’s suffering” in a much darker way.
My greats fear isn’t to die in an accident, it’s to barely survive an accident. To be kept alive but with no quality of life and in constant pain, that’s not life, that’s hell.
I don’t want people in that situation to be euthanized, i just want them to be given the choice, because that is what i would want
Former funeral director. I understand what this doctor is saying. I’ve sat with many people planning assisted death and they were understandably happy that their pain and suffering will soon end. It’s normal to be afraid of death and not understand why someone would want to die until you sit across from someone with bones growing out through their skin because of cancer or someone who will soon lose the ability to move their muscles and be trapped in their paralyzed body until they die. The most common reason to not follow through with a planned death is death. As in, the person waited until the last possible moment to request assisted death. Nobody wants this until they really need it, and when they really need it, they’re thankful.
Are there any dating sites where the users are actually trained on how to initiate a conversation? I bet not.
Bumble could start a free training program to get the poor sods (both men and women) who simply don’t know how to start to actually get started instead of being constantly rejected.
i feel like if people stopped pulling this small talk bullshit it would work a lot better. But for some reason people are insistent on being super fucking awkward for no reason.
“hey i see that you like X, that’s pretty cool, you know anything about Y” is automatically way less fucking cringe.
A while ago the ethical question was raised about MAID in Canada on how they’re supposed to distinguish between “genuinely ill people making good use of the service” and “depressed people who have simply lost hope and are using MAID as a more formal way to kill themselves.” As far as I know, they really can’t. Not to mention the stories of people turning to MAID as an alternative to dealing with Canada’s broken healthcare system. A healthy society doesn’t encourage its members to kill themselves.
Sure. And the Rothschilds were never never ever a synonym for „the Jews“ that is used by anti-semites to sell you the old fucking story that jewish people secretly control the world with their amassed money and influence. 🙄
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