That guy isn’t a Dom. He is just a sexually aggressive partner.
Real Doms require consent and that guy did not consent to being spoken to like that. Once boundaries have been established then that kinda talk can be hot as fuck, but based purely on this video alone the interviewer could have been anyone.
Overtly aggressive talk like that right out of the gate is not sexy, it’s just aggressive and can go very wrong if the person you are talking to is a sexual abuse victim (which, in my experience, does appear to be more common in members of the BDSM community, make of that what you will).
So anyone who looks at this video and sees no issue with his behaviour, take a step back and look at yourself. You don’t know what other people have been through and it’s incredibly important to make sure that people have a foundation of safety in any D/S communication, no matter how brief.
I can only hope that this wasn’t their first interaction and it was played up a bit for the camera. Otherwise this is simply unacceptable.
(which, in my experience, does appear to be more common in members of the BDSM community, make of that what you will)
It’s what they know. If they were children when it happened, it shaped their view on sex for their entire life. There is no going back from that. You can surprese the feelings, but you really can’t experience sex in any other way… or, you can, but this happens very rarely (very few individuals). They even sometimes see love through that perspective.
Can’t blame them… it’s fucked up, but the best they can do is just move on and do whatever makes them happy, even if it is BDSM.
I agree there is definitely some element of that for many people. I am a Domme myself and a lot of that is liking the control in the bedroom. I would never dream of talking to someone like that as a first interaction, but I have said much worse without blinking an eye under the right circumstances.
The opposite is true as well. I have found many Subs that like to be submissive within strict boundaries. At the end of the day it’s all about having control and that is defined on both sides, just in different ways.
I’m sure there are infinite more circumstances and thought processes as well.
Though I would like to highlight it’s not everyone. People are all different and there are many members of the BDSM community that haven’t experienced sexual abuse or any other kind of abuse. Just normal people that like to get freaky.
I am a Domme myself and a lot of that is liking the control in the bedroom.
Yes, I do like control in the bedroom as well. I think I would be a domm if I was in D/S relationship, but it’s too late for that now. I got a family, a kid, my wife is (mostly) mainstream regarding sex (toys, spanking, anal - very rarely though, but that’s about it).
But I do wonder from time to time what my life would have been like if I accepted a few indecent proposals I’ve had over the years… broke up with my wife (we were still dating back then) and just went allong with that. I like having a family, no question there, but I would most definitely change my sex partner. One, not enough of it (sex), two, doesn’t really fulfill my desires, three, I have to masturbate a lot because I don’t get what I want in the bedroom.
But, things are what they are. I can only fanstaize now and speak about it with complete strangers, since this is not something that society thinks it’s normal (at least not where I live).
I would never dream of talking to someone like that as a first interaction, but I have said much worse without blinking an eye under the right circumstances.
Of course, goes without saying. I am a very gentle lover of I’m with someone I don’t know, but once you figure out what that person likes or dislikes, yeah, things can get very heated with me as well.
But, yeah, to be honest, if the other person wants to just “make love” (like spread your legs, hump for 10 minutes and get it over with, or if she wants it gentle all the time) yeah, that is a downer for me).
Just normal people that like to get freaky.
Maybe I’m one of those, lol 😂. Haven’t really thought about classifying what kind of a kinky person I am 😂. I have a few, some are related to BDSM, some no.
I think it’s incredibly telling that very few people are considering it sexual harassment at all for a stranger to come up to someone on the street, shove a camera and microphone in their face, and start questioning them about their sexuality and sex life.
I’m sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.
Yes we should make being an on the ground reporter illegal they shouldn’t be allowed to ask people questions in public that’s crazy and he was forced to answer, he totally couldn’t just like ignore him and keep walking, what an invasion of privacy in public.
I’m sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.
It’s not.
I think it’s incredibly telling that very few people are considering it sexual harassment at all for a stranger to come up to someone on the street, shove a camera and microphone in their face, and start questioning them about their sexuality and sex life.
Asking a question about someone’s sexuality isn’t sexual harassment. That’s a really weird thing to think.
Since you apparently stopped watching as soon as he asked “are you gay,” the question he asked after that was “are you a top or a bottom?”
If for some reason you think that’s a more appropriate question to ask a stranger with a camera in their face than “do you use condoms?” or “have you ever tried BDSM?” then that is also a self report.
I started writing an annoyed reply then realised that maybe you just have a radically different level of comfort than I do.
I’ll ask some of my friends who are not in the BDSM community for their opinion and I promise to have an honest re-evaluation of my thoughts on this, while taking your perspective to heart.
Please consider that the video does appear to be in a setting where people would be more likely to answer these questions happily. However I am basing that on a few assumptions, so maybe I am mistaken.
I would ask you to consider how your comments come across to others. I’m sure you are simply trying to establish reasonable boundaries for people of your comfort level, and I absolutely respect that, but your comments in response to me were very aggressive from the beginning.
And yes, I do see how my exact complaint with your comments may be related to your point about the video. I will take some time to give that consideration as well.
I’m sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.
Your Comment was absolutely great until you had to make it about skin color.
Don't bother trying it. It's gotten really bad over the years. The chickens have gotten smaller, and now they cut the normal 9 pieces of chicken in half in order to get more out of a chicken and provide extra mechanically separated meat for all the new sandwiches. There are much better fried chicken places around.
It’s not even like the kind of phenomenally bad that you have to try, it’s just the most completely mediocre fried chicken you can imagine. Last couple times I tried it (in laws always order it when we visit for some reason), it’s been soggy with grease, not even crispy, and all the oil stops you from really tasting anything. You might as well just slop some bread crumbs into some vegetable oil if you really want the KFC experience.
Very important has to be the thing that I'm doing so that I have to open a browser without ad-block. For most things the close tab button brings me more peace of mind.
No longer a secret:
The recipe found by Joe Ledington reads as follows:
11 Spices – Mix with 2 cups white flour
2⁄3 t salt
1⁄2 t thyme
1⁄2 t basil
1⁄3 t oregano
1 t celery salt
1 t black pepper
1 t dry mustard
4 t paprika
2 t garlic salt
1 t ground ginger
3 t white pepper
It’s probably not advertising that they are afraid that you will block but the trackers. They want to know what user is clicking where, how long you are on each page and what you ordered / not ordered.
Yes they want AS MUCH of your money as fast as possible… but we do want to give them money as fast as possible too.
Disconnect obviously comes at the amount and the margin. They want you to max your credit card on their soda, we want the most satisfying assorted selection with an auto-applied 100% off coupon.
There’s somewhere in the middle there. They can telemetrize their site into it taking just a few taps for you to buy their higher margin combo meals. Their deals, they can hide as best they can without them being impossible to find for those inclined (price-sensitive buyers who open the app with discounts on their mind).
After add-to-cart, it’s in their interests to optimize checkout as best they can… well, with a side of last-minute upsells of course.
Here’s a question: would opt-out first party telemetry be a decent status quo? If you’re not privacy conscious (certainly not enough to pay cash in person), you don’t go to settings to reject trackers… but you still get to benefit from the average user being spied on just a little by internal teams & consultants to improve site/app flows. Don’t think I’m 100% anti-tracker in any case. (I’m definitely medium privacy-conscious as well as price-conscious, so I look for those opt-outs and coupons :) )
Yeah, this warning is pretty clear about that ironically. You aren’t allowed to have secrets, only they are. It’s pretty on the nose, but I guess it could be misunderstood. That’s probably how it got there. The person told to create this wanted to give a warning, but they couldn’t straight up say it.
Yeah, most fast food places here have delivery options now, usually partnered through UberEats or GrubHub or one of those apps. At least in the cities, they do.
Otherwise, they also will typically let you order online so you can schedule it to be ready when you get there to pick it up, yourself.
even here in the boonies we have doordash now.. just as expensive as in the city, and just as cold whenif you get it.
and i think you can still pay a one-way taxi fare and have them pick up an order and deliver. it has to be ready, waiting and already paid for--they won't wait. this is the cheaper option, because you're paying menu prices. not third-party 'app' prices plus bullshit fees and surcharges. fare is about 5 bucks anywhere in town.
A gas station several miles away makes amazing tasting food. I’m sure the fried chicken is fried in the cheapest transfat oil, but I’ve largely moved away from meat. I still eat it but I feel better when I restrict it. They also have baked chicken, meatloaf, etc and the veggies are slamming. And it’s not always cheaper anymore, to do it yourself, unless you catch a free ride that day and exchange your time.
Bike, walk, pay too much in time, money, effort, etc, or make friends and catch your rides when you can, understanding it may come at a mutual inconvenience.
An irritating number of companies make it inconvenient to just view a menu, and want you to “Start your order!” to see prices and availability. I get that certain items are regional so entering a zip code makes sense, but if I just want to look at a menu and prices to see if I even want to do business with them I shouldn’t have to create an account.
That said, for convenience purposes I’ll occasionally order food online or over the phone so it’s ready by the time I’m driving past on my way home and pick it up.
I often feel I’m stuck in the 90’s when it comes to ordering food. I like calling a restaurant, I like driving to pick it up myself, I like asking them shit about the menu over the phone.
I’m a human being, yo talk to me, don’t just tell me to go to the app or the website.
And before anyone beats me to it, yeah I’m angry at that cloud.
I mean. dude is obvi standing with a bunch of other queens outside a gay bar. Nobody was in danger, and everyone acting like this was so crazy, is probably just reacting to the fact that he was asking a big black dude. What, y’all saying black guys are inherently more violent or something? get tf outta here with that racist BS
that’s what im questioning. if he was a more flamboyant queer person would people have laughed it off? based on the comments i suspect they would have. it’s the fact he was “aggressive”; which i agree he may have been a bit forward and i wouldn’t recommend opening like that but he was also mostly respectful when rejected. I don’t think he’s trying to hurt anyone nor was anyone in any danger, he just probably knows the type of people he likes and they probably know him.
From my perspective, looked like he was goin for a kiss on the cheek. I dunno. the whole thing seems a lot more innocuous than is being portrayed here in the comments and most definitely in the title. “Dude almost lost his life?” Dude talked to a gay guy and almost got kissed on the cheek
Ah, this takes me back to my college times when I scanned textbooks one page at a time at the library because I couldn’t afford to buy one and renting a book was scarce
There should be a law that should any book go out of print, to be digitized and made available online. Publishers shouldn’t dictate which books are allowed to be consumed once they allow it out of print when digital versions cost next to nothing to make available for a nominal price.
That goes for authors owning the copyright, as well.
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