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roknrol

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Middle aged Progressive; Formerly @roknrolzombie at the bird app. I enjoy science and music - not in than order. I complain a lot.

Alt-text for profile pic: me, a middle aged white hippy sporting a beard and top hat. I don't look irritating.

Note: Frequently does not know when to stop talking. "Shut up" is slightly less polite than "You can stop talking now", but both work just fine.

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theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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Good evening comrades!

Who are some of your favorite musicians that bring you a huge smile?

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic Brian Setzer (or the Stray Cats, if you must). Love the music and he seems to be one of the few genuinely decent ones out there.

I also adore the Guthries (Arlo and Woody). Willie, of course. The way that Tom Waits has avoided selling out is astounding.

Always had a soft spot for Alice Cooper, even though his last few albums have been a little...meh...

ergifruit , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic anyone else do this? i have trouble identifying my own emotions and pain, like where the pain is (one space or joint vs limb or whole body pain) or what enotion specifically i'm feeling besides positive/negative (and sometimes not even that). but when i smoke cannabis, i have a far easier time pinpointing this kinda stuff. none of my autistic friends smoke, so i can't really ask them 😅

roknrol ,
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@ergifruit @actuallyautistic Depending on how much pain I'm in and where, yes, sometimes this happens to me. It's like when I ask myself the question, "What hurts?" my brain gives me a list. And it will keep listing things until it runs out of things that hurt. It has not, surprisingly, gotten any easier as I've gotten older.

roknrol ,
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@ergifruit @actuallyautistic Smoking pot helps me with the other overwhelming thoughts, although not specifically with the pain related ones. The weed does help numb the pain a bit, so it's difficult to tell what is causal and effectal.

StevenSaus , to actuallyautistic
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Because I'd forgotten: If you're using Linux and PulseAudio, you can use your laptop to pipe "outside" sounds through your headphones while you're listening to music, and control the volume of it to reduce stimuli while not shutting it all out.

Literally doing that right now in the ER waiting room, and it's saving my sanity.

https://ideatrash.net/2011/04/monitor-your-environment-in-ubuntu-wi.html

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

roknrol ,
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@StevenSaus @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd I use the same technique to pipe my laptop audio through my PC so that I can use one set of headphones. Works well, if sometimes a bit fiddly.

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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Infodumping is an love language.

If we don’t feel comfortable around someone, we won’t do it.

If we info dump A LOT, we REALLY like you.

It doesn’t mean we are soul mates or even known each other for long.

But we feel safe.

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@dweebish @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic This is how I've been feeling about my wife. She's not above using such things as insults.

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades find themselves becoming dehydrated often?

If so, you’re not alone.

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic No, but only because I lived in the desert for a decade so learned how to stay hydrated. Kidney stones a few times helped with reminders as well.

PossiblyAutistic , to actuallyautistic

Let's try the AQ, at https://embrace-autism.com/autism-spectrum-quotient/#test

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@Jobob @roryreckons @actuallyautistic @PossiblyAutistic There are always qualifiers.

I dislike change (when I'm not the one making it). I dislike people (except the people that I like). I notice small details (except for how a person is holding their mouth, or the "DON'T WALK" sign). I dislike being touched (except when I need someone to hold me).

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades find that they sleep better when avoiding triggers in the last few hours before bed?

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic My only experiences in being able to "avoid triggers" usually involve me sleeping away from my wife. In that case, yes. Other than those few times I have no idea how one goes about "avoiding triggers".

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Autistic people can be excluded from so many places and abandoned by so many people and then be criticised for spending so much time alone and doing things (by) themselves.

It’s giving “I don’t want to help you, and I don’t want you to help yourself either” energy.

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@AutisticAdam @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic Probably not this one
https://youtu.be/tsmPCi7NKrg?feature=shared

roknrol ,
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@AutisticAdam @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic I'll nose around...doesnt ring a bell offhand.

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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A strange part of being autistic is getting in trouble for your facial expressions, tone of voice, not inferring things you haven’t been told, & somehow implying things you haven’t implied. It can feel like people get offended by stuff that’s unavoidable & beyond our control.

You're basically getting in trouble for what others are reading in between the lines because they're making assumptions that are only valid for the people they're used to dealing with.

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@calofost @demimom @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic Honestly, I've stopped guessing what goes on inside other people's heads. It generally doesn't take them very long to decide that my literalism is either tolerable or annoying...they can make their own decisions with that information.

roknrol ,
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@Susan60 @marytzu @Thumptastic @anarchautist @nddev @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic To be clear, I do not blame my wife for her attitudes; they're rooted in historical fact, for her. But it is very disheartening to hear the same complaints after 24+ years of not exhibiting a single one of them. It's old. It's tiring.

It may not be 'fair' that these are some (of many more) reasons why I'm leaving her, but I'd be lying if I said they weren't some of my reasons.

CynAq , to actuallyautistic
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I remember a weird polemic I got into at kindergarten. This is late eighties.

I was already reading at a... I don't know what level. I never understood what "reading levels" were anyway, I mean, if I can read, I can read, right?

Well... Turns out none of the other kids apparently were able to read, at least not openly, and reading was actively discouraged by the staff there. There was a storybook hour where everyone picked a story book with illustrations and PRETENDED to read.

I found out when the teacher lady noticed I was actually reading the thing and pulled it away from me, telling me I wasn't supposed to actually read the book with, you know, words printed on it. The justification was "if you read now and get good at it, you'll have a terrible time being bored in first grade when all the other kids are still trying to learn."

Lady, I don't think you understand how reading works. I can't UNLEARN how to read once I learned it.

This is still within my top five unfathomable school experiences.

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@Jobob @CynAq @actuallyautistic We are in a far more enlightened age. Hell, we were wearing parachute pants. I almost can't blame her for picking on me.

roknrol ,
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@stephenczetty @Georgy @dyani @CynAq @actuallyautistic Late 80's...im no spring chicken either lol

theautisticcoach , to actuallyautistic
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How do my comrades deal with disappointment when already in an extremely dysregulated state?

@actuallyautistic

roknrol ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I don't care for disappointment. I find that a combination of setting my expectations low and by controlling the minutiae as much as possible, I can simultaneously stress myself out and ALWAYS be disappointed, regardless of how good the outcome actually is.

And then I bitch, usually a lot, until everyone that frequently comes into contact with me stops doing so.

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