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[...] "Revolutions do not allow anyone to play the schoolmaster with them." -- Rosa Luxemburg, The Mass Strike, Chapter 4.

I'm a libertarian socialist, a social ecologist, and a humanist, I know my way around Linux, and I'm partial to speculative fiction and TTRPGs.

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Ilovechai , to autisticadvocacy
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@autisticadvocacy @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd @autisticadvocacy

"it takes a long time afterwards to understand what was “me” and what was “them.”

...

.Anyone can memory-foam,…but I feel it is especially common for autistics. And I have a few ideas why.

https://medium.com/@attleehall/autistic-memory-foaming-2cfecfcb9e8c

foolishowl ,
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@Ilovechai @autisticadvocacy @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd This seems like it might have something to do with something I was posting about a few days ago, how I feel like I'm expected to assert my desires and I start doubting if I even really have any and if I'm really an authentic person.

chevalier26 , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Maybe y’all can help me with this question:

Over the past few months I have really been ruminating on what “masculinity” and “femininity” even are, and those terms are mostly defined by stereotypes. Like, I know I’m a woman but I’ve always felt like “just some guy.” I’ve never had dysphoria or anything, and I have a biblical understanding of sexuality, but cultural ideas about gender make no sense to me. All of this is so confusing. Any ideas?

foolishowl ,
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@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic I think nearly everyone with some introspection finds the received models of gender uncomfortable. We can look at how other people are exploring it and often challenging those models, but ultimately it's for each of us to determine what gender means to them personally, or if it means anything at all.

lifewithtrees , to actuallyadhd
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A job post that explicitly requires someone with "high executive functioning"

Is this ?

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foolishowl ,
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@lifewithtrees @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd That is absolutely ableism.

foolishowl ,
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@lifewithtrees @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd To expand a bit, it's making a statement about what sort of person should apply for the job, and using pseudo-medical language to do it, instead of clearly describing the job and leaving it to us to decide whether we are willing to do it.

On top of that, it sounds like a way to describe bad working conditions as if it's the responsibility of workers to cope rather than of management to improve working conditions.

LehtoriTuomo , to actuallyautistic

Someone asked whether I ever played Doom. No, not really. I told that I've never liked first person shooters and then it hit me. I never liked them as there's too much going on. In fact, I've never been a big fan of any types of shooters, the only exception being Cannon Fodder. Now, with the new-found autistic perspective, it makes perfect sense. Sensory overdrive all the time equals no fun. How about my fellow autistics, any fans of shooters?

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foolishowl ,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic I used to like them when I was younger. It depended which ones you were talking about though. I was a big fan of the original Unreal.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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It seems that I'm better at dealing with major life or death emergencies that every day struggles. Why is that? Is that autistic thing?

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foolishowl ,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic I think this is another case of the pattern described by Rebecca Solnit in A Paradise Built in Hell. Authoritarian social structures often fall away in crises, leaving people to act on their own best judgment. This quickly reveals that people's best judgment is actually quite good when it isn't being suppressed. So ironically people often experience crises as liberating.

ScruffyDux , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic I just learned that stimulation of the body's proprioception systems in turn down regulates some aspects of the nervous system that are typically overactive for us.

I also learned proprioception stimulation is something Occupational Therapists prescribe for autistic clients.

Wondering if anyone can share any such exercises or methods an OT has prescribed for them?

Deep muscle & tissue stimulation is the general notion I've gathered so far.

foolishowl ,
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@Vincarsi @ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic Honestly, the video is a lot to digest. But I do know I'd toe-walked a lot when I was younger.

foolishowl ,
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@SuperSynthia @dvdnet62 Because for capitalism, profit is not the end, only a means to the end. The end is to accumulate sufficient capital to absorb all competitors and achieve total control of markets.

foolishowl ,
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@accideath The point isn't whether Microsoft will reach that end. The point is that like all capitalist enterprises it will forever strive to do so.

foolishowl ,
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@accideath All of them. That is the definition of a capitalist enterprise.

foolishowl ,
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@accideath I'm calling them capitalist enterprises to emphasize that they are capitalist enterprises. They accumulate capital. That is what they are and defines what they do.

A capitalist enterprise does not decide it has enough and can retire and take up gardening. It is not a person. It does not have a conscience.

foolishowl ,
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@accideath We started by talking about Microsoft, and I was explaining that there's no such thing as "enough" profit for a capitalist enterprise.

There are many organizations that are not capitalist enterprises. There are small businesses and cooperatives where the owners deliberately keep profits low. The small business doesn't have a conscience; the owners may. And it leaves them vulnerable. Small businesses destroyed or absorbed by larger ones is the third oldest story in capitalism.

foolishowl ,
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@accideath No, an organization does not have a conscience. It is not the sum total of the consciences of its owners. It is not a collective person. It is an engine.

One of the reasons to be clear about this is that you can quite easily find people who believe that Microsoft, for instance, is doing good in the world. I used to work for Microsoft and met career Microsoft people who obviously sincerely believed in it.

You have to first understand how the engine actually works.

hosford42 , to actuallyautistic
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Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:

  • Comfortable with ambiguity
  • Strong people skills
  • Good culture fit
  • Multitasking
  • A fast-paced dynamic environment
  • Bachelor's degree or better

I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.


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foolishowl ,
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@polotek @hosford42 @actuallyautistic @neurodivergence There was some UK study that found one of the greatest sources of stress for workers in the lower tiers of bureaucracies was unclear and contradictory job requirements.

This is a case not just of ableism, but disability being a social construction; accommodating our needs would benefit everyone.

Everyone but the people at the top who enjoy breaking everyone and everything.

18+ marronvulpes , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic I think out of the many myths being associated about autistic people, the idea that we have "hyper-masculine" brains makes the least amount of sense.

I mean it's 2024 and even the most ignorant neurotypical should know that women and queer people can be autistic and yet somehow this myth has yet to fade into oblivion.

I know it's not the most common myth or the most influential but it's by far one of the backwards thinking I ever witnessed in my life.

18+ foolishowl ,
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@marronvulpes @actuallyautistic I'm autistic and a cishet man, and I've been told I'm not really masculine enough all my life, so I've never understood this "hyper-masculine brain" nonsense.

magicalgrrrl , to random
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community!

How do I make friends as an adult? I'm new to my area and don't have any local friends or community. Have been struggling with loneliness a lot lately.

foolishowl ,
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@magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic My best guess is to identify your special interests and try to connect to people through them.

One thing to note is that there's a global crisis of loneliness. This report highlights COVID as a part of the problem, but I think this is related to trends that have existed for decades.

https://www.who.int/news/item/29-07-2021-new-advocacy-brief-highlights-serious-consequences-of-social-isolation-and-loneliness-on-the-health-of-older-people-calls-for-greater-political-priority-to-the-issue

foolishowl ,
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@magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic Speaking for myself, I have found it difficult to sustain relationships with much of anyone but my partner. I think of her as much more outgoing than I am, but she has as much trouble as I do.

Neurodivergence complicates things, but I think we're all living under social pressures designed to isolate us; overcoming loneliness will have to take into account that it's a global problem.

clouddweller , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic what is your relationship to cannabis?

foolishowl ,
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@clouddweller @actuallyautistic It gives me severe anxiety.

JeremyMallin , to actuallyautistic
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How many fellow Autistics have never lied on a job application, never lied on a CV, never lied on tax forms? 🙋‍♂️

Is doing that expected? Is it required? Is not doing that handicapping us? Do you too feel almost unable to do that?



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foolishowl , (edited )
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic I have a compulsion towards excessive honesty, which I've had to learn to keep in check, in part by recognizing that a lot of organizations that want to appear benign are actually malign. Employers, in particular, are literally "out to get you". So I don't lie when I fill out forms, but I don't provide information I don't feel the organization ought to have.

foolishowl ,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic One problem I've had with resumes, in particular, is with including the fact I was a university student, but didn't graduate.

Often, I've had people mistakenly assume I graduated, and I feel I have to correct them, which I always worried made me look worse than if I didn't even mention it.

These days, employers in IT are outright hostile to education in the humanities, so I just don't mention my university education at all. There's no benefit.

hosford42 , to actuallyautistic
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I'm interested to get my fellow folks' takes on this.

Neuroscience News: Is Inflammation in Childhood A Mechanistic Link to Neurodevelopmental Disorders?
https://neurosciencenews.com/neurodevelopment-inflammation-24941/

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foolishowl ,
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@hosford42 @26pglt @null_hypothesis @actuallyautistic @neurodivergence There's a widespread bias towards teleological reasoning.

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Sorry I can’t come to the phone right now. I’m autistic and simply not good at calls. Please call back literally never. Texts and emails exist for a reason.

Thank you.

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foolishowl , (edited )
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@Frances_Larina @kcarruthers @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic @simonlbn Aside from the rudeness, I don't understand why someone would prefer to call to exchange information by voice that would be easier and more accurate to exchange by email.

(I'm also often frustrated by people taking screenshots of terminal windows.)

CynAq , (edited ) to actuallyautistic
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Edit: This was a fantastic thread, thanks for all the contributions :blobcatbirthday:

As of now, with first person comments from Roddenberry himself, my own position is the two characters were not intended as depictions of any then known neurotype but diverse characters for the sake of diversity and acceptance of the different.

It looks like almost all of us are in agreement that they are likeable characters and respectful in their execution.

The original post:

Wait wait… wait. Fuck! Wait…

Someone tell me Spock and Data aren’t attempts to be inclusive of autistic people in the arguably the most progressive franchise of its time, please.

They are, aren’t they?


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foolishowl ,
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@CynAq @actuallyautistic Someone suggested that you can see Data and Lore as two conflicting approaches to autistic masking. Data does everything he can to fit in, but struggles to recognize his own feelings. Lore is confident in his own identity and feelings.

This was framed as analogous to the phenomenon of queer-coded villains.

foolishowl ,
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@CynAq @actuallyautistic Star Trek: The Next Generation was originally aired when I was in my teens, and I was compared to Data a few times.

I can't really see Lore as even a covertly positive model, however: he was arrogant, selfish, and destructive. I could kind of see him as a Jungian shadow personality, in the sense that maturity requires integrating conflicting aspects of your personality. I think Picard hinted at this idea but handled it carelessly.

CynAq , (edited ) to actuallyautistic
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Seriously tho, this is a pet peeve of mine.

Lots of software industry people use the term or to refer to pieces of software, specific programming languages, frameworks or libraries for those languages, communication protocols etc.

To me, it sounds like this:

I'm a line cook and my favorite technologies are Viking 12" pan and Shun 8" Nakiri.

Oh, I'm a writer and my go to technology is English. A close second is The Oxford English Dictionary!

I don't know. Specific products don't fit the definition of technology for me.

In my head, technology is a set of broad categories. The entirety of Programming languages or the concept of network protocols are technologies, specific products under these labels, aren't.

Are there any people who feel like this? Because I'm quite sure this pet peeve is a direct result of the way my brain works.

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foolishowl ,
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@CynAq @actuallyautistic It bothers me that "tech" is used to refer to computer hardware and software, when it's a broad concept that applies to any facet of human experience where we have developed a body of techniques.

Vincarsi , to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic @allautistics
I keep seeing people complaining about how Mastodon is full of "splainy reply guys" and I think there's a misperception of going on. I think there's more of us on here and we're more comfortable being ourselves. What will it take to get the allistics to understand that our contributions are offered in a mature "yes, and" spirit as opposed to the juvenile "well, actually" they seem to always read it as.
We're genuinely smart, not stuck up.

foolishowl ,
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@fishidwardrobe @Vincarsi @actuallyautistic @allautistics I hate to add to the pressure we already experience to conform to allistic expectations, but I think that "mansplaining" is such a toxic phenomenon that we really do have to learn that our infodumping is often unwelcome.

It may be best understood as a matter of consent, checking whether our input is wanted.

foolishowl ,
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@fishidwardrobe @homelessjun @Vincarsi @actuallyautistic @allautistics The "I didn't want you to" is still significant.

foolishowl ,
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@fishidwardrobe @homelessjun @Vincarsi @actuallyautistic @allautistics I was forgetting we're talking about social media here, and I have seen a few instances of people angrily responding, "How dare you reply to agree with me, you mansplainer!" which seemed unfair.

foolishowl ,
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@fishidwardrobe @homelessjun @Vincarsi @actuallyautistic @allautistics In one case, the person was under sustained attack, often sexist or racist, for her arguments about social harms caused by certain giant corporations, so I could understand why she'd be suspicious.

juergen_hubert , to folklore
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Kobolds are often very eager to please their masters.

@germany @folklore
https://www.patreon.com/posts/concerning-part-30538497

foolishowl ,
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@juergen_hubert @germany @folklore I'm surprised. I thought kobolds were strongly associated with mines.

foolishowl , to actuallyautistic
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@simid @pathfinder @TeacherGriff @masukomi @Laberpferd @fictionalbutnot @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic That's part of it, but Greta Thunberg has also successfully built up a support network.

I think in a lot of situations, allistic folks perceive warning signs that autistic folks may not perceive. The powerful do not want to be questioned, and they rule by fear. Challenging them is necessary, but dangerous, and autistic people sometimes challenge power accidentally and without preparation.

AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Autistic people are often criticised for “reading too much into things” and “assuming” the worst, but usually what we deduce is highly accurate, thanks to our pattern-spotting and dot-connecting abilities. I think the real issue is we typically unearth truths others want to remain hidden.

@actuallyautistic

foolishowl ,
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@Susan60 @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic There's no valid reason why criticism should require a counter-proposal. It's an authoritarian maneuver to stifle criticism.

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