A strange part of being autistic is getting in trouble for your facial expressions, tone of voice, not inferring things you haven’t been told, & somehow implying things you haven’t implied. It can feel like people get offended by stuff that’s unavoidable & beyond our control.
You're basically getting in trouble for what others are reading in between the lines because they're making assumptions that are only valid for the people they're used to dealing with.
The Double Empathy Problem is like you're D&D characters, and your CHA (charisma) is only full-strength with your own neurotype. When autistics encounter allistics, each sees the other's CHA at -4. Autistics can use the Masking skill to help on some CHA rolls.
The Social Model of Disability is like how a Halfling is fine in their home village, but in a Human town they are too short to reach all the things that have been built for people twice their height.
Am I on the right track here? What would make these better? And do folks have other explanations they have had success using?