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What is the word for someone who is friends with different groups but doesn't have loyalty to any one group?

The closest word I can think of is a sycophant but that’s too strong word and not exactly what I’m looking for. The word I’m thinking of has negative connotations and it’s for someone who is friends with different groups but only at a superficial level and isn’t necessarily honest about who all they’re friends with. This person would be seen as untrustworthy.

H1jAcK ,

Is this person known to be friends with each group, by each group? Or are they trying to keep their connections hidden, as well?

Pat12 OP ,

They keep their connections hidden; it is the other groups who when asked state that they are friendly with this person.

thantik ,

Honestly I’d feel quite attacked if I were on the other side of this questioning.

Pat12 OP ,

sorry what do you mean? english is not my first language

thantik ,

You’re actively having people ask who their friends are, and they’re being guarded about it.

If you felt like you might be kicked out of a group of friends that you really liked, because of your association with someone THEY didn’t like; wouldn’t you be a little guarded too?

It doesn’t sound like you’re friends with this person at all. So if not, just stop pretending they’re your friend. Because if being friends with you is dependent on them NOT being friends with someone else – then you aren’t a friend.

Pat12 OP ,

I am not really understanding this, anyway I am looking for a word for someone who will be friends with pro-govt and pro-democracy people and you can’t trust a person like this or you will get arrested

ABCDE ,

Sounds like this but not necessarily friends with lots of people: dictionary.cambridge.org/…/duplicitous

I know of some who flit between groups, they are dangerous at times.

Pat12 OP ,

duplicitous

i learned a new word, thank you!

AFKBRBChocolate ,

Only words I can think of are “lickspittle” and “toady,” but those are both for people who are overly nice to people in authority. Maybe “disingenuous?”

Pat12 OP ,

disingenuous

disingenuous could definitely be it; they’re not straightforward about their intentions.

mosiacmango , (edited )

Interacting with different groups of people has nothing to do with being earnest or forthright.

I have friend groups that dont interact, but it has nothing to do with them. These are people from differnet parts of my life like work or different hobbies that could co-mingle, but life is too complicated to actually sort that out. I dont really overly discuss one group with another unless interests cross. It’s nothing personal, it’s simply that these groups exist largely in separate parts of my life, so they tend to stay there.

justhach ,
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Opportunist

Pat12 OP ,

Opportunist is definitely closer to what i’m thinking than sycophant.

theworstshepard ,

Fair Weather Friend has gently negative connotations

Nobody ,

Yeah, the good version of someone like that would be a diplomat, but the untrustworthy version is definitely an opportunist.

thantik ,

I’d call them normal. What kind of psychopath has multiple friend groups, but is only “loyal” to one of them?

Or counter to that…

Cautious? I’ve known plenty of people who had just been hurt by past friendships, so they were cautious about putting themselves out there too much for fear of getting hurt.

Pat12 OP ,

If you’re friends with someone, wouldn’t you want to know if they’re also friends with someone problematic?

thantik ,

No. Because as a friend, it’s not my job to dictate my friends-friends. I’ve had plenty of friends that were friends with my enemies. I’ve had friends that were friends with ex-cons, etc. No problems.

Pat12 OP ,

I’ve had friends that were friends with ex-cons, etc.

you do you but I would definitely want to know if my friends were close with people who’d been in prison. If I worked in a field where they do background checks i would absolutely need to know if my friends were friends with those in prison. There’s a difference between dictating who people are friends with and knowing who people you give information to are close with.

FuglyDuck ,
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Every where does background checks, these days. In any case we don’t really care about your friends; and outside of ts/sci type clearances, nobody runs checks that deep (or even has the ability to- you need to provide close contacts for them to run a check)

Pat12 OP ,

I live in Asia, if you tell the wrong person you are a democracy supporter you can get arrested or on a watch list

FuglyDuck ,
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Surveillance states need not apply, but they’re still running checks for employment basically everywhere.

In any case, political crimes (“democracy supporter”) are just more justification to not care, imo.

Pat12 OP ,

In any case, political crimes (“democracy supporter”) are just more justification to not care, imo.

you are saying you want people to not care about who they share information with when they live under a state that will arrest you for many more reasons than someone in the west would expect?

Kanzar ,

Ex-cons might not be the best group to use in your example…

If I had a friend who kept the company of fascists, I’d probably drop them real quick - notably as the current iteration of fascists are intent on ensuring people like me are dead or ground under their boot.

On the flip side, just because I had a disagreement with someone doesn’t mean other friends can’t be friends with that someone - it takes a lot to be called “an enemy” of myself.

thantik ,

Why? If they’re Ex-cons, they’ve done their time and they deserve to be treated the same as everyone else.

They’re a perfect group to use in my example.

And there are very few actual fascists out there. If you’ve used that word more than twice this week, it might be a you problem.

Kanzar ,

It’s precisely that they should be treated the same that I don’t believe they make a good example as someone you wouldn’t want to be associating with.

You shouldn’t care that mates of yours hang with ex-cons, so there is no conflict to be had there.

I wasn’t remarking on the incidence rate of fascists, merely commenting on their views.

Dnn ,

If I had a friend who kept the company of fascists, I’d probably drop them real quick

Not a good way to make them see reason. I know it’s hypothetical but if you’re friends shouldn’t you put in some effort to help instead of just drop them?

Kanzar ,

Given how out and proud the sentiments are expressed, the friend can’t say they didn’t know… I wouldn’t waste much time trying to have them see reason. You don’t accidentally join a dinner party where everyone else is a white supremacist, or an anti-vaxxer, or where everything they don’t like is woke and thus should be eliminated.

Either way I said probably… Which would likely follow as certainly after an attempt to see if maybe they have been wilfully ignorant (still not a good look).

Dnn ,

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    ABCDE ,

    Maybe give it as an example.

    Pat12 OP ,

    Not a good way to make them see reason. I know it’s hypothetical but if you’re friends shouldn’t you put in some effort to help instead of just drop them?

    you’re planning to spend time debating with a ziganwu? or if you’re western, a staunch far-left or far-right supporter or someone with very racist views?

    squid_slime ,
    @squid_slime@lemmy.world avatar

    This reeks of controlling

    Witchfire ,
    @Witchfire@lemmy.world avatar

    A mimic

    DirigibleProtein ,

    Maybe dilettante, maverick ?

    Identity3000 ,

    What about a “social climber”? Someone whose friendships are based on calculations about who can help them succeed in other ways?

    credo ,

    You all are harsh.

    “A social butterfly is a slang term for a person who is socially dynamic, successful at networking, charismatic, and personally gregarious. Usually, social butterflies don’t belong to a particular group, but rather jump from one group to another.” Wikipedia

    Edit: Perhaps it doesn’t answer the question because it’s not a single word. It came to mind immediately though. Maybe start there and look for synonyms?

    Pat12 OP ,

    Hmm I think it’s fine if someone is a social butterfly, they don’t have bad intentions etc. I am talking about someone who seems like you can trust them but actually they have other loyalties, I live in a place where people get arrested for supporting democracy for example

    wahming ,

    If we’re talking where consequences of their friendships get you thrown in jail, traitor is a pretty good word.

    credo ,

    What about perfidious gadabout?

    I think your focus is on the disloyalty, but really there are two aspects of your description that make it difficult to find s single word which fits well. I’m also thinking the individual isn’t necessarily disloyal, but rather loyal to an unseen cause. E.g., disingenuous. If the person is a plant, then “mole” comes to mind.

    reinei ,

    I heard them called “bats” because they flap around between different groups and are associated with darkness thus “shady”!

    Pat12 OP ,

    I heard them called “bats” because they flap around between different groups and are associated with darkness thus “shady”!

    hahahahah

    pantyhosewimp ,

    In the USA, one term we have for this kind of person is “poseur”.

    Cruxifux ,

    Turncoat, two-faced, quisling, crony?

    Reziarfg ,

    Duplicitous?

    Pat12 OP ,

    i learned a new word, thank you!

    Murdeth ,

    Free agent. Floater.

    Nualkris ,

    Social chameleon

    0ops ,

    That was my thought too

    scrion ,

    Paigon

    lando55 ,

    Paimon?

    Meron35 ,

    Maybe fickle

    tover153 ,

    Flibbertigibbet

    mPony ,

    a will-o-the-wisp?

    CiderApplenTea ,

    A clown.

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