What a gargantuan task! And you got through it. Without unfortunate hangups (“Goodwill doesn’t want this old napkin but how can I just throw it away?”)
Someone on NPR managed to keep just one thing from their husband’s passing, a favorite t-shirt. But even a dirty napkin I’d understand, really anything is understandable in the face of a big loss.
So, I missed some steps then:
1 - think about your stuff
2 - check if next of kin can handle stuff
3 - make sure they can handle the stuff
4 - make a will for, at least, your money