The problem is the other people in their 30s are boring, miserable, and second-guessing their life choices constantly. Even if they made the effort to be friends, I couldn’t stand them. The only people that don’t do that are my friends…my old friends…in my old city…far, far away… Oh, god I’m miserable and second guessing moving here.
My 30s were so so so much better than my 20s, it wasn’t even funny. I partied practically non-stop from the point my 1st marriage ended in my early 30s, to when my 2nd one began at 41. I made tons of new friends, dated around a lot and had the best time of my life.
Now that I have 2 kids, a stressful job and my money evaporates the moment it hits my bank account, I also have lost all my friends. The only ones I have now are other adults with kids around the same age as my kids, because that’s pretty much the only time you get to socialize with other adults.
The secret is: hang out with people younger than yourself and/or get involved in a scene. I’m a musician so I just went to shows or met people at mine. It doesn’t have to be that though, I also joined a volleyball team and while I stunk up the joint, I also got to meet a bunch of cool people. Really most friendships are based on proximity and common interest, so if you’re into movies, go to movie festivals or special showings. Go to meetups, get involved in a political campaign (if you’re political).
That’s my experience and advice too. I just naturally find friends that are on average 15 years younger than me. I’m early 50s and most friends are mid-30s. Working at a university for years sort of established that pattern and it has remained even though i went corporate.
I mean, have you met US Americans in their 50s? For me it’s the lack of imagination they tend to exhibit. I’m a perpetual child myself, no kids, no plans or desire for any. Younger friends have interests and dreams, still. I do too!
I find the quiet desperation that oozes from people in my age cohort to be off putting. If you are desperate, stop being quiet about it!
Having younger friends keeps me optimistic because younger generations seem to have looked behind the curtain and have partially deconstructed the illusions we are ruled by. Maybe there’s hope?
Where should I start? I like to own my music, stream it from my server @home, I like to use a calculator, just because I like them. And I like to do things in a terminal, even when it takes 5x the time and a hand full of code. I like to connect things with cables instead of wireless, still faster and more secure, got a full cupboard of cables and adapters, I even collect movies and ebooks on my drives with the thought of “the day the internet brakes down I’ll be the king here”. Maybe it’s because I AM old?! That kind of old, there was a time I spent money for a ringtone.
I’m in the EV market right now, looking for a good commuter car, and Tesla went from my #1 spot to one of the last options. It’s amazing how well he tanked that whole business. Luckily there’s a ton of competition cheaters now
A conservative was talking at me a few weeks ago about how much he loved how Musk was pissing off the libs and about how he’s a shrewd businessman. I asked if he would buy a Tesla and he said never. He didn’t have a response when I told him Musk doesn’t sound like a good businessman.
Everyone loves candles. Some guys are just pointlessly insecure about candles being a “girl thing”. I’ve also known girls that love the smell of gasoline. People be what they are regardless of their lower bits.
It’s dependant on cookies. If whatever you checked that on deletes its cookies it can’t remember the “device”. The wording is all wrong but I guess they have to do that because plebs don’t know that this is running in a browser.
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