That only works for 1 or 2 generations, when the immigrants' descendants find out what the pre-existing citizenry already has found out: that it's too expensive and difficult to have children, particularly when you're overworked all the time.
Plus, immigrants are usually only brought in for jobs that are shittier, harder, lower-paying, and with fewer benefits than the current population of native born citizens already have.
I'm a children of immigrants in the USA who is childless (hell, most of my cousins are too) and I live around immigrants of every nationality, and most either want to wait until 30 to have kids (and generally only like 1 kid at that) or want to have no kids.
It's like that in a lot of western nations with birthrate problems. It doesn't take long for new people to start acting like the old people if the conditions are bad enough, and they are.
I don’t know if this will change your mind, but I think people exaggerate how difficult it is to have a kid. It’s pretty hard for the first year, but it gets easier. I had my son when I was 19. I haven’t thought about having another until recently, my son is 9 now, so it’s been 10 years or so. It’s a pretty big sacrifice at first but it does get easier with time… Then they got school and after school activities. I spend a lot of time with my son and enjoy spending time with him, so it’s not like it’s a drain. I also managed to get a solid career without a college degree by wit and effort. People who weren’t going to accomplish anything with their lives love to blame their children for their own shortcomings. I’m not saying it wasn’t without sacrifice, but don’t listen to naysayers. A child is not the end of the world.
I don’t think that people having children in their 30s is a bad thing. In fact, there’s a lot of misconceptions about when a woman should have a child, and it’s safe to have children even into your 40s. I think young women don’t want to start birthing kids in early adulthood when there isn’t a strong family support system in their life. Also, to be honest, most people are still trying to figure out so much about who they are and what they want in their 20s, I’d rather see more people waiting to have kids than people having kids without a thought of how they’re going to provide
Abe’s push for native births over integration of foreigners always struck me as deeply racist. Especially knowing the background reasons why birth rates are so low.
Low salaries and culturally long working hours, plus the cultural tradition for women to abandon their jobs to take care of their children (which they can’t afford to do in this economy, so most just postpone child rearing)
Waiting 30 minutes to download a song just to hear someone’s bad Bill Clinton impression saying “my fellow Americans…”, the best of times and the worst of times
Mine have come full circle and I’m 3d printing parts for my custom built arcade racing cabinet that will be used to… Game. Nobody said they had to be segregated.
I’ve been trying to find a smaller instance and I tried a couple, they see waaaaaay different things. I can’t even see lemmy.world on one of them. I might have to keep all of the instances and just jump around.
Join mine! I run several tools in order to federate with the most popular content automatically. I’m keeping user count limited, but sign ups are open at the moment.
That makes sense, thanks for explaining. I couldn’t find a lot of instances in their search though either. Can the instance person make it so they have to approve each instance or something? This is a very simple one and I can’t believe they would be defederated.
My instance has it. It’s local communities are focused on a specific niche (books & writing) so it might not be your cup of tea though. But basically when setting it up you specify which instances it pulls from, how often it pulls and how many communities it can pull at a time. You can filter specific communities and instances, and it’ll automatically ignore instances you’ve already defederated from. By default it pulls the top /all posts from the instances you specify. Mine pulls from a couple big instances and smaller niche instances as well every day around noon to get a solid diverse amount of content. You can also auto disable NSFW communities from populating as well. It’s basically the equivalent of telling the bot to go to the front page of each instance, seeing the top posts of the day and pulling from each community that’s there to check if it’s federated into your instance or not and if it isn’t itll pull it in for you.
With the way lemmy functions if a problematic community starts hitting /all an instance admin can just remove the community and it won’t federate into the instance anymore. Ideally there would be more granular federation options in the future, but with the things that the seeding bot does now it works pretty well.
That is great information, thank you for explaining it to me. That explains why I’ve had issues trying to find my favorite communities on the smaller instances. I think it’s misleading when they say that you can pick any instance then, it really matters for what kind of admin you get and what you can see overall. I can’t see world on this super small instance but I can see beehaw. On world, I can’t see beehaw but I can see everything else the small instance can’t. I’m starting to see why people are confused when they join if they join a small instance.
Some of it is also federating content in, you don’t need an admin to do so for you. If you have a link to a different instances community, just pasting it into the search bar of your local instance will federate the community into your instance for you. Go to lemmyverse.net and find a community and its link then past it into the search of your local lemmy instance
I did that, that’s what I mean where it wouldn’t work. I’ve done it for tons of communities from world where they didn’t have it but it didn’t work on this small instance.
I tried 3 different ways and three different times for the search way thinking it was me. It has me confused too, my guess is that the admin didn’t want world clogging up their all page so they bounced it or something.
Lemmy.world sometimes has federation issues and wont federate communities into the instance if its down. They’ve been experiencing a lot of downtime lately.
What apps do you recommend for swapping instances?
I have tried Jerboa and Connect. Both allow me to swap accounts from the main menu, but I am brought back to me default start view and not the community/thread I was looking at.
I noticed that, because I went to add my beehaw account that I had created when I joined Lemmy, but I guess beehaw deleted it for being inactive or something. Beehaw still shows up on my instance list, and I kind of wish I could remove it.
I tried lemm.ee and it’s cool but I see so many hexbear posts on the All tab from like any of their communities spewing hate and it’s frustrating to scroll past
Yeah, that’s a nah from me for that very reason. Those people should be shouting that stuff in their bathroom, not in a place where others have to hear it.
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