Hobbies mainly, we joined a running club (in our 50s). We go running with other couples, some are child free. The child free tend to gravitate towards each other. Perhaps because we have more free time, and tend to accept invitations, and are able to host, as a result.
The friends we still see/talk to were about half formed before I left school and half newly found through a post looking to form a D&D group in the new city we moved to. We aren't in to the bar scene at all. Most of my coworkers have kids - the younger ones who don't have similar interests but I just don't seem to hang out with them. The ones with kids never have time for anything, only the most well-off ones with stay-at-home partners even have hobbies to speak of. It's depressing.
Best option seems to sniff out the spaces dedicated to your area online. Subreddits, Facebook groups, and then see if you can find local events happening that are related to your interests, or other people looking to meet up, hang out, play games you like, etc. I'm not religious but I know a lot of people swear by meeting friends through church or church-related groups.
No i’m saying it might not be the fact that they are child free per se, but might just be that child free women are mentally ill and incapable of forming families and so of course they would be unsatisfied.
wow dis some sexist shit right here. Y u trolling yo, you just trying to get a rise out of people here?
We don’t hate moms here dude, we’re pro woman, whatever a woman wants to do she should feel empowered to do so, unlike your sexist meme that says they should do one thing or another.
If a woman wants to fuck her bald divorced boss for a raise instead of raising beautiful children of course she may. However; according to this graph she will have less satisfaction. I am very pro woman. Getting them pregnant is one of my favorite hobbies.
Listen here fella, I own 3 restaurants and a gas station. I am a multimillionaire. I have been with hundreds of women. You should learn from me instead of being jealous.
This makes sense. If you want kids and have the means to support them, then it’s fairly easy to just have kids. While it’s a ton of work, the entire process is very rewarding if that’s your thing.
If you want kids but can’t afford them, that’s a drop in life satisfaction.
If you don’t want kids and have aspirations outside of raising a family, you’re fighting an uphill battle since so much of our society is designed around men. It’ll be much harder for you to attain something satisfactory.
Alow me an observation from the other side. I am a parent and I'm friends with two childfree couples (as well as with several other couples that don't have children now but plan them in the future). I meet my childfree friends when I have someone to babysit, so I have a free evening for them. Sometimes we spend holidays together and on those occasions they don't mind the children. In general, they choose the activities they want to participate in with me and it doesn't influence our friendship at all. In the end, I think it's about mutual respect (and finding people that are capable of it).
yeah, it’s more about finding open minded people with empathy (and be open minded and empathic ourself) more than finding people just like us. Embracing differences, respecting and understanding eachother is key. There are plenty of people out there who keep their kids to themself and have plenty of other interests, it’s easier to meet them if we don’t push them away in the first place (just like they don’t push us way fro being child free).
This worked for me. I joined a meetup board gaming group and became close friends with the host. We were both single at the time, now we are both in relationships and child free and regularly get together to play games. It's been great.
I actually got more involved with the kink community events. People who have healthy sex lives often don’t have children, because they want to keep things spicy. Yeah, there’s a good handful of parents, but these are the people that realize that children can interfere with living, and they’ve all been super respectful (or openly envious) of my childfree choice. Getting my fallopian tubes yeeted was the best decision ever.
Hate to break it to you, but making any friends in/past your 30s is very difficult. But I do get your point that choosing childless makes it even more difficult. I’m lucky enough to have had a couple of close friends who chose to remain childless before I had kids, and we are still close. But we would have remained close in any case.
I’m in my 50s now, and maybe I’m an asshole, but the last time I made a new friend (a real friend, not acquaintance) I was in my early 40s, and that friendship did not survive me moving an ocean away, to my great sadness. This happened with me several times starting in my early 30s, but I’ve moved continents three times, so mostly my fault.
kids only benefit corps: they want human labor, they can create gmo kids and raise them on their expense, else a baby trashes his mother’s body, and a financial burden for the dad only to benefit corps. also noisy and uncontrollable, and personally i hate when things are out of my control.
Table top RPGS, board games, poker/card game groups, baking, cycling, volunteering at an org you feel strongly about, trail building to add to the list. As mad as I am at Reddit this would be the perfect thing to scour your local subreddit for groups for.
child free adult here: we are few, but we exist. personally i don’t expect friendship from people with children, or it would be as shallow as heck. lonely? i agree. but thats the price to be paid for not being part of the crowd.
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