College only makes sense economically if you have a plan.
If you’re a naive, idealistic, scatterbrained, autistic, traumatized, brainiac redneck raised into terrible character by a spineless single parent who drove off the good one, like I was, then your best bet after high school is some entry level job, heath insurance, and therapy for a few years.
I was like “sweet! big journey!” and the kids from healthier backgrounds and I got along fine, and they got their shit done and I mostly tore my hair out and cried and took super long walks and experimented with drugs. I had been led to believe that the journey through life was like driving through a country. I didn’t realize that traveling in this journey meant transforming the self. I had no conception of self transformation as an aspect of life, of directed growth, of evolving consciously. All I had was this feeling that life was like a river and I was kayaking down it seeing new stuff.
I don’t really know how to say what the lesson was. It was the most expensive lesson I ever learned, because not only did it cost me a huge amount of money, it also cost me about twenty years of my life.
I have similar experience with you, and boy do I waste so much money on that. Wish I could afford therapy, because managing myself emotionally was a long, expensive and heartbreaking experience I wish I could skip over.
After having 3500 dollars worth of stuff stolen by my shit landlord. I went to court. Again And again And again And again.
Not accounting for my time, gas, parking, I spent over 5000.amd even after I “won” I still wound up goj back to court several times because this scum sucking asshole claims to be 100000 in debt to the government.
I hate the legal system more then I hate the guy who stole from me!
As an IT-worker, it’s not uncommon to test technology and scrap it due to bad results or unfit implementation. Usually this isn’t considered a waste, since there are a lot of things to learn in the process.
However, this one system which was designed for testing applications was a bit different. From the day we were told about it, basically every developer knew that this would be unfit. However the customers were firm on that it should be implemented. I’m not sure if it was because of the looks of the sales person or if it was a genuine incompetense that the decission was landed, but I felt a bit too junior to stand up against it. So about a month of work with 2 developers went down on something that every other developer knew would be scrapped. 2 devs at ~$100/hour, 4 weeks of 40 hours, so roughly $32,000.
The lesson was that I need to be more direct and firm when things like that is decided.
never go into business with anyone you know, especially family, without 1) An iron clad contract explicitly stating powers, ownership, and responsibilities and 2) being able to walk away from your entire goddamn fucking family.
Damn bunch cynical people saying don’t get married. Maybe don’t get married to someone unless you’re sure, and get a prenuptial. There are advantages, legal and financially, of being married.
Everyone tends to extrapolate from their own experiences. My wife and I got married about a month after we met, for complicated reasons. We’ve been married for just over 20 years now. Mostly very happily! I don’t recommend our path to anyone, but the fact is that you just never know.
Don’t try to update the BIOS of a generic x86 mini-server if the manufacturer does not offer it on its website. I didn’t learn the lesson the first time but I certainly did the second one. $200-ish down the drain that way
It’s not that bad, bios is stored on an eeprom chip that can be programmed with some special device. On some motherboards (usually older) the chip is socketed which is really nice. On others, you need to desolder it. If you can find someone doing electronic repair, they might be able to fix it.
If I ever find someone with enough hardware and electronics knowledge to revive those two boards (in Central America I should add), I’d just give them up for free for all I care.
It was all a bit of a blur, but I recall there were lots of lapdances, champagne, and getting in a hot tub with a bunch of strippers and doing karaoke.