She had mental health issues she acknowledged, but refused to get help for. And these issues just interfered a lot with what a healthy relationship should be, so after a while I had enough and told her what I thought of this.
She got quite angry, which is fair because me being so fed up meant I was being a huge dick about it.
Long story short, we both decided that we never want to hear from each other again.
So yeah, could’ve handled it more maturely.
I genuinely never meant her any harm, and I wish her all the best. But ultimately, us not being together is for the better.
I was overwhelmed by changes in my life and bottled it up until I freaked out at my loved ones. Years have passed, and I’m still pissed at myself for that childishness. Healthy ways to blow off steam are a must.
Three different relationships. They ended because…
…neither of us was mature enough to actually do what was necessary to stay together.
…for the exact same reason as her friends consistently distance themselves from her: she’s entitled, irrational, and selfish.
…what she actually wanted wasn’t a long-term relationship, just some emotional comfort. But both of us got a bit too excited with the relationship, so it lasted more than it should.
If you realise that the other person is just seeking emotional comfort, ask yourself “am I OK with this?”. If you are, it’s fine; if you aren’t, it’s better to break the relationship in a friendly way, and move on. Just don’t fool yourself by thinking that the relationship will last. (I wish that I did that. I didn’t. Living and learning, they say…)
I broke up with my first girlfriend years ago because “there was no spark”. In truth I went on my senior cruise, reconnected with a childhood friend I hadn’t seen in years, developed a massive crush on her, and though I did not intend to pursue anything romantically with her as she was already dating someone else, I realized that I had never been attracted to my gf in the first place. I regret that I broke her heart and wish I would have had this realization to begin with, but that’s youth. I wanted more for my life, and I got it. She did too, and much faster. She ended up meeting her soulmate within a year of us breaking up and they have a beautiful daughter together.
In the US many students celebrate graduating high school by going on a “senior trip” with their classmates. My friends and I took a week long trip on a cruise liner through the Caribbean.
She was absolutely right, we were better off as friends and I only wanted a relationship because i didnt want to be alone anymore. It hurt a lot at first and I lost one of my best friends, but it was for the best for sure.
Every breakup was totally predictable, and for a/multiple VERY good reasons. I don’t regret any relationship I’ve ever had. Some I learned some things that immediately made me a better person, others took me reflecting later on, to make me realize things that ultimately helped me improve as a person. Regardless I learned something from every relationship/partner. A lot of them were red flags to avoid, and traits I couldn’t be with, but I learned things
Every breakup I went through was because I wasn’t an attentive partner. I’ve been happily married for almost 10 years now, so I figured it out, but I was just young and not ready for a long term gig.