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How to deal with being bald?

Until yesterday I used to have long hair. Due to unusually high tempetures I started having problems with the skin on my head. So, to avoid problems. I shaved it clean and it will remain that way until the skin in treated.

Now that I’m bald, I now know what’s it’s like. It sucks. My old hair suited me perfectly. It was messy just the right amount, perfect length, made me look different than the rest and handsome as hell. Every girl would look at me where ever I went to. Compliments floating over the air, jealous looks from other men etc. etc. It made me feel powerful.

But most importantly, it suited my personality and clothing. It was perfect! But now it’s gone. I hate bald me. I will never look back at this bald version of myself.

It feels weird. I don’t feel that bad but still it’s disheartening.

Lettuceeatlettuce ,
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There was a study done by a university a while back that had hundreds of randomly selected women rate headshots of men from 1 to 10 in various stages of hair, from full thick head of hair to completely smooth bald.

They plotted the results and found that the full head of hair pictures averaged the highest, as you would expect. Then as the baldness increased, the average ratings dropped extremely quickly.

However, once the pictures got to the 100% bald men, the average ratings shot back up nearly identical to the full head of hair pictures.

The conclusion of the researchers: if you care about being perceived as attractive to women as a balding male, you need to commit to one or the other hard. Either get hair transplant surgery, get a high quality hairpiece, or commit to the bald look hardcore and shave it butter smooth.

The worst thing you can do from that perspective is to let the balding hair just kind of grow out all partial/thin.

I guess it’s the classic stereotype, the thing the majority of women are attracted to is confidence. So if you’re going bald, commit hardcore to the bald look, embrace hats, jewelry, and clothing that emphasizes your head shape and face, experiment with facial hair styles if you can grow it.

Keep your skin clean and your head held high. Lots of sexy bald guys out there, your worth as a person isn’t held in your hair.

My balding grandpa dressed like the classic dorky old man; shorts pulled up over his belly, tucked-in baggy polo, socks pulled up to his knees with dad-sandals, and a dirty trucker cap worn crooked on his head with giant yellow-brown glasses. But damn if he wasn’t the most confident man I’ve ever met. Humble, calm, but super hard worker and very driven, also honest as the day is long. Married happily to my grandma for over 40 years until freak cancer took him early.

Hundreds a people from all over the country came to his service, the amount of lives he had positively impacted was incredible. So many people pulled me aside to tell me what a great man my grandpa was, it was powerful.

Apytele ,

my vagina endorses this message (fwiw)

Croquette ,

And what about you? Do you approve of this message?

tatterdemalion ,
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On the same plot, there is a massive spike in attraction to the partially bald head of Stavros Halkias.

illi ,

I understand your feelings, as living with great hair and liking it and going to bald must suck. Take comfort in fact that it is temporary.

But as a bald man - being comoletely bald is fucking amazing. I can’t compare with having good hair - had short haircut all my childhood, decided to grow it longer in my mid teens (wanted to be a bit morr stylish) - and that’s about the time I started loosing my hair. So had to go to shorter lenghts so it’s not that obvious and went full bald around 17 when I had a visible bald patch anyway. So can’t compare but it was the best decision I made - both at the time and for the future. I shave once a week and everything is easy. And I was blessed with a great skull shape so looks good.

Much more salty about me not being able to grow decent facial hair though. That beard and bald look would be sick but oh well. We have to play with cards we were dealt.

unknowing8343 ,

If you were getting bald (which you might not) you’d have 2 options:

  • hair transplant (if needed) and medication for the rest of your life.
  • shave/trim and move on

I’m generally for team 2. I’d hate medicating (which from internet opinion has various long-lasting unwanted side effects) for the rest of my life for such stupid thing.

I must confess, I have the benefit that I don’t look that bad. Also, being fit becomes much more required when bald, 😅, you have to compensate your older look; and side effects from exercise are virtually all positive. So I’ll take it.

orcrist ,

I don’t think “bald” is the right expression. You have a shaved head, which is different, right?

Also, shaved heads can go with most kinds of fashion. Your hair is always perfect, no matter the wind or rain.

Finally, if you got self esteem only because of compliments on your hair, now is the perfect time in life to find other ways to love yourself. Deeper ways. :-)

Fuck_u_spez_ ,

All the men on my mom’s side of the family have been bald for as long as I can remember so I knew I was doomed when my hair started thinning in my early twenties. Now that I’ve been shaving it for years, I don’t miss it one bit. It’s so much less of a hassle than keeping it clean and straight and cut neatly.

It’s just hair. You can either own it or wear a hat while you wait a few months until it grows back – and then be grateful that it still does.

tiredofsametab ,

well, for one, sunscreen! Sunburnt heads suck. Hats as well.

It took some getting used to (I've gone through phases of shaving my head and having long hair. Recently, since I work outside in the heat, I hit it with the clippers every few days leaving just < 1mm. You'll probably just get used to your new style which will help the confidence which helps everything else.

BioWarfarePosadist ,

If you’re worried about male pattern hair lose, but don’t care about having a libido: Prescription Finnesteride. It a testosterone blocker specifically for the one that causes male pattern baldness. I was hitting stage two, and a long with the HRT I’m taking, I am seeing a lot of clawback on spots I thought would be bald forever.

I only pay like $15 for three months through GoodRX.

HonkTonkWoman ,

HRT is magic for hair loss.

gueybana ,

but don’t care about having a libido

This is a small minority of men or so they say, it’s not a guarantee

VelvetStorm ,

You put way too much value on your hair. You are the same person as you were before other than losing your confidence

AFKBRBChocolate ,

Older guy here, went bald in my 20s. Let me say this: while going bald or becoming bald sucks ass, being bald is fine. I had lots of thick hair, and when it started going away and I didn’t look like me in the mirror anymore. I figured women would find me less attractive.

What I learned is that it takes a while for your self image to catch up to your reflection in the mirror. One of the shitty things for most people about going bald is that it happens over a long time, and when you’re used to one level of baldness, it gets worse. But eventually it levels out.

There are women who aren’t attracted to bald guys (and that’s fine, attraction is subjective), but it turns out there are women who are especially attracted to bald guys, and that the vast majority of women don’t care. Doing things like having a comb-over or wearing a toupee are often a turnoff, but I think it’s as much because of the associated lack of confidence than the look itself.

I can sincerely say that I wouldn’t want my hair back today. The look suits me and it’s easier to deal with.

floofloof ,

The only bit that really sucks about being bald is if you don’t wear a hat you get skin cancer.

AFKBRBChocolate ,

Yeah, true, there’s an increased risk, and I’m not as good about it as I should be.

CanadaPlus ,

Or if you do it in the cold, you get the mother of all brain freezes after a while.

On the other hand, direct scalp access can come in handy for various medical things, and on a hot day I love splashing cold water on it.

CanadaPlus ,

That’s exactly it. There was a grieving process for a few months as I came to terms with it, but now I don’t think I’d go back if given the chance. I’m a bald guy, I look good bald and can make bald jokes whenever the ice needs breaking.

ICastFist ,
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Just think of yourself as Rob Halford for the time being.

sapphiria ,
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You could always try having some fun with wigs. Lots of options there, from realistic to completely outlandish. You could even try cutting & styling one if you wanted it to look similar.

TheLastHero ,

Don’t try to half cope, everyone will smell the desperation. Gotta embrace it and stay all the way bald. Other men seem to notice and care more about it than women honestly.

crystenn ,

figure out how far up before you stop washing your face

ShimmeringKoi ,
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Depends on how good you look bald I guess. Either way, good to accessorize

mihnt ,

Hey, 40-seomthing here. Been bald since I was 19. Own. It. Go get yourself a nice hat and a mullet wig and give less fucks.

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