I would probably be a mom by now if I could be, not because I want to be but due to regular happenstance, but with everything I face and everything having kids could add to that, I don’t trust myself as one, with both bad genetics and a fear of imbuing a bad childhood at play.
It’s not such a binary thing. For example, you can obtain some, hodl for a bit, and later return them for a profit. It’s basically like the stock market, except people refer to the money you get as a “ransom” rather than a “profit” for some reason. What many people outside the industry don’t know is that it doesn’t officially become a crime until police get involved. So just insist on “No police!” in your sales calls. /s
I’ve known from a pretty early age that I never want kids. Don’t get me wrong, I actually love kids. At social events I’ll often be the one entertaining them, and I can’t wait for my friends to start having kids so I can be the cool & fun babysitter.
However, kids are dreadful roommates, I’d be a horrible parent, I don’t want to bring a living being into this cruel world (especially with climate change), I’m too poor for children, and, being non-binary, parenthood just seems so tied down to gender norms I don’t adhere to.
If my life were financially more secure and if the climate didn’t seem objectively fucked in the future I could imagine myself being a happy father of kids
Yeah man, this is it. I like freedom and disposable income. But I feel like it would be rewarding raising kids. But also it’s sentencing them to whatever fucked up reality the last few generations have pushed us towards.
This is it for me. I absolutely love kids, but everything is so expensive. Having kids would be a big risk as things could quickly become very difficult is there was an emergency.
Absolutely no kids ever even if I wasn’t gay or had ability to adopt. I don’t remember my childhood positively at all, I think my parents should’ve never decided to have kids, and despite me trying hard to not be like them, I found myself making similar mistakes. I don’t understand people being so obsessed about having kids and saying stuff like “wait until you got ur own”, I’m like bitch it’s not happening ever unless it’s a nightmare I wake up all wet after with relief that it’s not real
My wife had my first when I was 39. I wish I had had kids sooner. I love going to minor hockey games and taking to my daughter about her crafts and school.
I wish I could, but given the condition I’m in - soon-to-be 24, unemployed, mentally poor, no heirloom, no inheritance, no labor laws, high levels of pollution - these aren’t ideal conditions for a child.
I’ve also never courted a woman before - I can probably not, because it is my intrinsic bias that I won’t have anything to provide from my end, and that I don’t want it to be one-sided, and also because personal circumstances - abusive family, you know.
I don’t want another cog to this exploitative capitalist machine. I guess I’m just unlucky, but hopefully, this suffering ends with me. This makes me feel a little sad, but I don’t want to be selfish.
And no, I’m not taking care of adopted kids. There’s barely a few rupees in my account. Worst case possible, I want save it for the endgame.
I was well into my 40's when my kid was born, so I've had it both ways. I vastly prefer the kid. Yes it sucks to not being able to do some stuff on occasion. It even sucks more that my parents are gone so I have a real hard time finding babysitters. But I just love the little one so damn much!
I’ve never really felt the urge to have kids. Plus it saves on resources and finances. I have nephews and nieces already and that’s good enough for me. I’m at the point where some of my friends are having kids. Others aren’t. I love being an uncle.
In any case, it depends on how much you as an individual want to have kids. For me, it just didn’t add up. My wife and I both don’t want them. We both work and want to retire as early as possible.