Thinking before speaking. I would just sort of stream of consciousness it before. I still do sometimes, because I like the surprising things that come out of my mouth, but it’s handy to be able to rein it in when nessa
Definitely not a “thing,” and extra definitely not contemporary.
I’ve only ever known one other person to say it, and that was the ex partner my comment above was about! They had a really playful way of speaking, and I realise in retrospect I’ve unconsciously taken on a lot of their little idiosyncrasies.
I had to look it up, but it looks like it’s a reference to this line from High Anxiety with Mel Brooks.
How to say so when something isn’t good enough. I’m super prone to just accept shitty delivery/products/service. My wife is amazing at saying “I was super disappointed” but in a way that gets the other person on board and often rectifies the issue. She’s super awesome at expressing limits without aggression and it’s definitely made me a better person to be around; before I would accept my own borders being crossed while the pressure was building and then explode with rage. Much easier to deal with things up front and then be authentic. Still learning but she’s great at this.
My GF in college whipped out excel and did some math in the spreadsheet while we were talking about something. So I decided to learn excel and that’s been a super useful thing to know my whole life.