Saraphim

Saraphim , 9 months ago to asklemmy in How do you deal with high adrenaline situation afterwards?

I usually puke and then go to sleep for 4-6 hours. I’m sure this is not healthy, but you asked how I do compel not how I should. These other responses about Tetris and healthy coping mechanisms are much better than what I do.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to asklemmy in Who Is The Person Bullying You At Work Right Now? How Are You Dealing With This?

Oh shit yeah. It’s worse than highschool.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to asklemmy in What is the cost of housing in your area?

Ontario here. The numbers they report are the “average” but I call bullshit. Reality Average one bedroom apartment $2500, 2 bedroom basement $1800. Utilities extra. Buy a townhouse $700-$1m. Detached $1m+. We are so fucked.

To be able to afford a 1 bedroom apartment one person must make around $80k a year. If you want to purchase a house, we’ll good luck unless your household income is over $200k and even then you’ll be scraping the bottom of the price barrel.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in ELI5: What is scat? The internet one.

Scat (musical) - the bee bop beeping boo jibberish people sing in jazz music

Scat (scientific) - animal droppings (poop)

Scat (internet/modern) - people who participate in sex involving poop as part of their kink.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to asklemmy in What are the coolest coins in regular circulation from around the world?

I love the look of pesos. They look like Canadian coins but with more badass.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to asklemmy in What temperature do you keep your thermostat at?

24 Celsius, which is about 76.5 f. My husband disagrees.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to asklemmy in Is anyone else having trouble giving up Reddit due to content?

I’m using Memmy and I can search.

Saraphim , 10 months ago to asklemmy in Who else is a little bit stoned rn?

I wasn’t before but you’ve inspired me. I’m easily influenced.

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

What the fuck is wrong with you ?

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

Not sure why you’re getting downvoted here. This is accurate with every word.

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

I have adhd ironically. I don’t do this. Of course I have a lot of trauma from working a high stress job that requires an insane amount of executive function, plus I also do most things at home, and am the main wage earner so I spend my entire day in disaster/panic mode. By the time I’m finished all that the last thing I need is my eternally bored husband jump scaring me at random with this shit. Why can’t he just read a fucking book and entertain himself?

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

I have talked to him. He acknowledges he does it but doesn’t know why. I’ve explained how stressful it is for me, and he says he understands. I’m bitter because it annoys the fuck out of me, not because he’s trying to “share” with me.

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

“You’ll see! Just come here!” 80% of the time it’s nothing at all. The other 20% it’s something bad involving blood or damage to our house or something equally awful and devastating. It’s horrible to do the execution walk to see which one I’m going to get. He even once needed stitches and was bleeding everywhere and wouldn’t tell me what he wanted, just that I needed to hurry and he needed a hand. I had to experience the big reveal and see the blood everywhere before he told me he needed a towel from inside the house where I’d just been.

Even emergencies he won’t tell me. “I’ll see” when I get there. Surprise!

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

This isn’t investing in time, thought and energy though. This is random impulsive things, regardless of if I’m at work, or on a call or just trying to wind down after a 12 hour day. I work a full time job and a side gig, and he is, at this point, semi-retired. I do the majority of the housework and childcare jobs. We contribute to our household income at about 5:1. Im already exhausted, but I feel like he wants me to spend any free second I have entertaining him. He has no interests except his guitar (which he gets his fill of at work as a teacher about 25 hours a week) and his PS5. So if neither of those are entertaining him, then I’m expected to provide entertainment for him. I’m really just tired and frustrated. Have you ever had someone who literally just wants to fill up every spare moment you have with something they need before ? There are days where I’m cleaning the kitchen at midnight and he’s getting snippy because he’s been waiting forever for me to get finished to come and play this game so he can watch (he makes it sound like it’s really a favour for me because he’ll rub my back halfassedly while I play). He’s not investing in anything, and he’s got a lot of energy to spare. I don’t.

Saraphim OP , 10 months ago to nostupidquestions in Why does “come here” bother me so much?

Oh come on that’s not fair. What I’m talking about is not a healthy amount. It’s an excessive amount. Sometimes it feels like I’m a tv set. I’m his entertainment. He even makes me play video games I don’t want to play, so he can watch me play. I love spending time with him but I also value my own personal time. And it’s unfair that I should be spending my personal time doing activities that I’m not particularly enjoying so that he can watch me do it like a tv.