I think it’s more selfish and cowardly to make someone else’s suicide about yourself. You’re making someone’s suffering about YOU. You you you you you. I have less than zero compassion for the ‘suicide is selfish’ brigade. Try a fucking ounce of consideration for others.
A good friend of mine committed suicide a few years back. While I really miss her I would never dream of pointing the finger or calling her selfish. She had been through things I was very lucky to be protected from. Making her death about me would have been heinously narcissistic.