It’s really not acceptable, there shouldn’t be that trade off. There is, right now, but we need to take our power back and hold elected accountable. The number of people who have battered voter syndrome that would absolutely be un-understanding with zero compassion for battered partners being in that mindset is astounding. They victim blame the partner with less power in a relationship, especially when there are a few kids involved, but they keep the rest of us ~340.5 million trapped in an abusive relationship some of us want to exit.