And before all that, you are programmed to understand the concept of gay.
It’s all programming. Now that social programming happens so quickly and such large scale… Humans weren’t meant to handle that much programming.
Now, some people, at some point, start to question all programming. Those are the most resilient to direct programming from others, and the most able to program themselves based on judgement of all the programming going on.
But for the rest it’s just a frustrating mess of self inconsistencies.