It all comes down to a lack of empathy. These people made their own life choices that worked out for them personally, but can’t get their head around the notion that other people can make different life choices (or have the choice made for them due to circumstances beyond their control).
It’s like they perceive only one path to happiness - the path they took - and look with disdain on anyone who is doing it differently.
I’m sure Vance read Aniston’s story and was secretly thinking to himself “Hah! That’s what you get when you promote your career over your family”, while booking several campaign trips which will take him away from his kids for weeks at a time.