I’m computer savvy enough to know the ISP wouldn’t have most of those records anyway. That said, I do my best to make sure if something happened to my 14 year old I could access the sites and conversations she has been to because she has some emotional issues that I don’t think are appropriate to explore on this particular thread. On the rare occasion I do check on her, I keep it to myself unless I were to see anything that made me fear for her safety.
I know that sounds draconian to some, but I guess you’d have to be in my situation to understand. I’m not talking about browsing porn, though we did try hard to stop that when she started at 8 or 9. I’m talking about sexting with folks on other continents who claim to be her age and sending nudes to her boyfriends.
I don’t do the same with my 12 year old because she has a lot more emotional maturity and I have no fear that she is going to get herself in trouble in that way, and if she did I have confidence that she would let us help her.