While I’m not a church person at all, I’ve definitely heard from progressive church goers (even non-religious ones that like the social aspects) that there’s certainly options and denominations available that aren’t that.
If it’s something you actually miss or feel like would make your life more full, it might be worth church shopping for places that have a different attitude or approach from the churches that turned you off.
I think there’s even non-denominational offerings mirroring the social setup but with no religious beliefs incorporated.