Yeah no worries on the 30’s thing. I am pushing 40 and have actually had the “Ummm yaaa Aren’t you a little old to be a non-binary?” levied at me… Like it’s a fad for edgy teens and not something that I had to shelve for 20 years because I figured people would think me a loon for outwardly expressing because nobody talked about it.
I am lucky to be in a place were I have been able to meet older trans folk because the community where I am has been a stronghold of queer identities since before it was more widely accepted as cool. There is a bit of reverence inside the community to be had for anybody who survived the AIDS epidemic and the rough persecution of those times, particularly trans activists over 60 who have been out aince rocks were soft there maintains a “I eat roofing nails instead of cereal for breakfast and honey badger don’t give a shit” vibe about them. From that very select demographic “trans sexual” almost seems to have like a “badge of honor” status where heaven help the little shit who tries to call them “transgender” because they will turn you inside out with a stare and incinerate what’s left with words.
Like I have gotten some real bad enbyphobia off of one of them and have had secondhand warnings regarding others but the general concensus amoungst others in the Pride volunteer realm is kind of like they get a free pass.