I’m not judging, I’m curious about why people say this stuff. The way we talk is intimately tied with results. Changing rhetoric is a big step in getting girls to conceptualize themselves as capable of “boy” things. “Chess is for boys.” isn’t just a phrase, it’s like a spell that alters reality. If people can understand how words have power when it comes to women’s opportunites, or minorities taking interest in voting, then they’ll eventually understand that it affects our agency too.