I got corporate involved and they said the dealerships should fix it for free but they could not force them to. Corporate said that if I paid to have my car towed to a dealership 600 miles away they would repair it under warranty.
The estimates I received from the dealerships wanted $12000 to replace the becm. The car was valued at $15000 so that made no financial sense to repair.
The car only had 62,000 miles on it and was in perfect condition other than the becm.