asteriskeverything , 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

Have you spent your entire life raised to put more weight in others’ comfort, opinions, achievements than your own?

It’s REALLY easy to gaslight someone. Congratulations, you’re not a predator who seeks out/recognizes these qualities in someone for you to take advantage of.

It IS common. It exists in many forms of abusive relationships. The fucking problem is that the internet is stupid as fuck and doesn’t understand what gaslighting is. If you start to question your intelligence, memory, etc because your partner is always contradicting you, just them, yeah that’s gaslighting. Disagreeing or the person is being a jerk and saying those lines doesn’t mean “you’re being gaslit” it’s a process and state of mind and being. You can be gaslit to believe your father never spent months painting himself blue trying to get into the blue man group, but that’s if you are convinced! Someone telling you that your dad never blue himself trying to convince you does NOT mean you were gaslit.

Also lying isn’t gaslighting. The point is someone questioning or changing their reality.

Sorry for the rant. I’m very passionate about abuse awareness and can’t self edit so well.