Yeah, I got that feeling, too, but I think it’s just short-hand.
I took Aikido for a while, and it’s common there to talk about energy and ki (it’s in the name ffs). It can seem very woo-woo, but one day I had an epiphany: especially in a system like Aikido, it’s all about leverage, centers of mass, gravity, and conservation of momentum: physics. But it’s hard for most people to think about the physics of the thing while doing it real-time; it’s less hard for them to visualize balls of energy and the flow of energy - and so you get ki. It’s a short-hand.
Whether or not OP believes there’s literal magic woo-woo sauce being transfered, it’s a useful shorthand for how you might think about interactions, emotional states, and personality types. All of those personality profiling systems like Meyers-Briggs and DISC are built around concepts like this; they’re trying to distill complex human behavioral psychology into tools that can be taught in two-day seminars and be used by people who aren’t psychologists. It’s like how high-school geometry is a kind of distilled, symplified physics: a lot of the simple volumetric equations are derivations of more complex solutions.
What OP is talking about is just another system of personality profiling, wrapped in mystical trappings to appeal to a certain mindset. If lighting candles and invoking rituals helps OP release negative and recover positive energy, then it’s a useful tool for managing their emotional state. I mean, yeah, there are more healthy ways of thinking about the world, but as a shorthand, it could be worse.