How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There’s nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean?
Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you”
“Come on tell me”
“Haha no”
That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in”
I don’t think there’s anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community … Or whatever the fuck they call it these days…
Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever “trick” this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying “I AM VERY BORING”. I don’t get how this attracts anyone.
The whole conversation is a facepalm. This should have been 3 lines:
“What’s the last song you saved?”
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<span style="color:#323232;"> 'I am not comfortable sharing that information with you'
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“Okay, if you’re aren’t willing to let me get to know your basic interests clearly this isn’t the kind of relationship I’m looking for. Good luck and have a nice day” [ends transmission]
If only people were straight forward and detached.
Fantasy: “This relationship is not working out anymore, it is time for a break up/ divorce so we can move on with our long term lives in a more positive way.”
“Yes I agree let us proceed forward in a calm and reasonable manor with no screaming or anger. We shall split assets in a fair and non-childish way.”
“Okay I will be staying in another house/motel until the house is sold, have a good one”
“You too!”
Reality: 5 hours of incoherent scream fighting, crying and baseless threats followed by another 5 hours of passionate makeup sex
If they don’t want to tell you just drop it. They’re an asshole for not sharing and you’re an asshole for being persistent about something that doesn’t matter
Nah looked to me more like they were pushing to see how he responded after what initially sounded pretty cringe and elitist, basically confirming the tone then handing him the shovel to keep digging deeper
My mother’s maiden name is pagbdjsGajwHGaj8283Hwnwmfueuhs, why?
Btw, this is unironically how you should treat security-related “questions”. It’s just another password to break. And you wouldn’t use these things as a regular password.
Maybe something like MyMother’sMaidenName?RandomNumber172839it’sNoneOfYourBusiness. Maybe.
I’m really disappointed in what happened to Reddit, but wow did Lemmy seem to step up! My daily procrastination and general time wastage barely saw a blip!
Right there next to ya, if anything I spend a bit more time on Lemmy, especially commenting. Feels considerably more cozy, and welcoming here then reddit has for the last few years.
Am also considerably happier, didnt realize just how much stuff on Reddit was there to try to egg you on and antagonize its users.
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