People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.
Or he might just be an idiot.
Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.
In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free pussy pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.
Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work
Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.
Nah it’s one of those things where some guys just prefer to talk about what they think matters to everyone, their job or financial conditions, music or other personal stuff might just be an extra on their minds
To play the devils advocate here, maybe music man has gotten ridiculed before with this question on his music preference. When I’m driving by myself, I’ll fire up youtube and listen to all sorts of random stuff. But I’d never subject my wife to it as I know we don’t share interest in some things.
For sure, dude could have just been more blunt right away about not wanting to share that info (still strange, or maybe just embarrased?). I’ve never used a dating app, so IDK.
I don’t have an answer for that. I’m not saying he handled it right, just trying to come up with some sort of mindset he may have had to respond like this at all.
I’d think it would feel bad having to lie about the music you listen to. Maybe music man is already past denial and in acceptance, just not telling anyone.
Not an ideal in forming relationships. Honestly, as much of a train wreck as his response was, at least it gave some useful information to the person he would potentially be dating.
People don’t respect the Colgate Comedy Hour anymore, this is why we don’t have genius like Paul Bufano or Roy Donkins anymore. Her music collection must be all meat and potatoes.
You’ve presumably had conversations with your wife, though, where you shared, and she wasn’t into it. I dunno, at the least you were, perhaps, honest about not wanting to (or not being comfortable with) sharing.
Furthermore, it’s a song and she asked. No one is being subjected to anything. No one has to listen to the song named, or, if they do, even finish the song.
Unfortunately I was young, dumb and unlucky in love, so I put up with that BS for way too long. My advice to anyone in that position is definitely don't put up with it because you're worth more than the love these kinds of people give. A healthy relationship is built on mutual love and respect. You need to give it, but you also deserve it in return.
That’s the perfect moment to know if someone will ridicule you for your music choices. If it happens, you stop the conversation right there and save yourself the trouble of a awful first date.
Well, even saying that you can’t remember the song because you snorted cocaine out of your adult diaper is better than being a jerk.
My musical taste is cringe and my spouse has known it since we started dating years ago. Never felt the need to hide it from them. Good partners can respect each other’s preferences, so there’s zero need to hide what you enjoy.
As I sit here happy and secure in my own relationship, I’m inclined to say I’d rather be single than online date. But if I actually found myself single before I’m even 40 I suspect I’d change my mind eventually - that’s a lot of life left to go through alone. And the only way I’d be likely to meet someone would be online, so needs must.
I am single before 40 and I’m done. If someone falls in my lap I’m not going to complain, but other than that it’s just gonna be me, myself, and I fighting the good fight of life to the death.
music compatibility is a big thing, despitewhat anyone says. it carries over to so many other things about a person and how they perceive their world and others. I would have thanked them for showing that they have no intention of participating in a relationship and blocked them.
The last four songs I’ve listened to on YouTube are three pirate shanties and “We Know The Way” from the Moana soundtrack. I’m not answering this question either. :)
Is it from Japan? They love weird packaging. Anyway the box looks simple enough, just stab it with an awl punch. A screwdriver would probably work fine too, or probably just a sharp knife.
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