of course this is the natural progression of reactionary propaganda morphing from “buff grizzled white western ubermensch” to appealing to aggrieved incels that are desperate and lonely and can often never attain the idealized form of their idols. Then you have the ones that have some modicum of conventional attractiveness but they are also such toxic pieces of shit that no woman ever wants to touch them, and it must be the gays and the wokes and the women’s fault.
It’s suffocating to be in a middle management position because you get squeezed by the higher-ups and your own team. If the higher-ups make a decision that your team dislikes or vice versa, you’re going to be in the shitter with whichever party suffered every time even if you had the best intentions.
This is the purpose of middle management. You’re the one responsible to the C-levels for what happens on your team, and you’re the first line of defense for the C-levels to ignore the complaints of their lowers. Thus you get shafted from both sides.
The only way to be good at middle management is to basically throw everyone under the bus all the time. When your subordinates complain about policy, it’s all “this isn’t me, management made this decision.” And “I’ll pass it along to management”… When management complains about the team, it’s all “they’re not being motivated, how about we give them pizza” or something. You know, useless one time “gifts” that should “improve morale” but actually does nothing, and costs less than actually increasing wages.
They’re not your friends, even if they act like that.
The management just sees you as expense factor and does not care about you except for how to get the most work done for the least amount of money. Your team leader does not care about you and only cares if their numbers look good. Your colleagues do not care about you and only see you as competition or the idiot they can give their work to.
If someone is nice to you they want something from you not because they like you.
I’m so sorry you see things this way. I just left my job after many years at the company, and while my goal wasn’t to make friends I definitely ended up collecting a few along the way. I was in upper management and definitely cared about my team, and so did the directors under me. I befriended some of the people in the C-suite as well. They threw a nice, big surprise going away dinner for me, which they definitely didn’t need to do. I’ve met up with former coworkers in other departments to catch up, because we genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I hope you find a place that values you and that you can find a friend or two that you can keep in your life.
Oh I work for the government my friend. I actively disrupt those meetiings, I complain out loud that they could have been an email, I take great joy in pointing out that none of our “feedback” is ever implemented and that the meetings are an ego massaging exercise.
Consequently, 75% of the regular attendees like me and 25% want to stab me really bad, but we do now have fewer meetings.
I sometimes send emails that probably should have been meetings. Here’s a couple pages of dense text and bullet points, I’ll need your feedback on most of it, so please get back to me ASAP with an equally long email, thanks.
Yeah but doing it through email still has so many benefits. You can refer back to it years later if needed, you can think out and rewrite your points, include someone else later without restating everything…
We don’t have time to do it right the first time, but we will make just enough time to redo it wrong a few more times before the customer complains loudly enough that the boss pulls someone from another job which will now not be done right because we don’t have time.
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