No way. So far, my 30s are the best. I can actually afford to do all those things I wanted to do in my 20s now. Until my health takes a major hit, I suspect life will continue this trend.
Nah, childhood is so depressing. No money, no car, you’re not even allowed to make your own medical decisions. I’m not advocating for giving kids cars and jobs, of course, but it sucks to live through. In your 20s you’re finally allowed to leave toxic situations and maybe get some antidepressants.
I once asked a question, everyone thought I made a bad joke, down voted, I edited it to include that it was genuine curiosity, got down voted even harder and called stupid, my noddle still doesn’t compute the situation.
Sometimes you start with the person you replied to down voting you because they think you disagreed with them, then others read your comment and up vote it
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Other instances: downvote into oblivion. No notifications involved, you can just ignore it and move on.
Hexbear: no downvotes possible. You get tons of comments that are basically generic memes and could as well be downvotes without any loss of information.
This is pretty disingenuous. Most of those comments don’t pour in until after someone ignores a well sourced informative critique, then people selectively ignore said effort posts and selectively reply to people just dunking on them for refusing to read.
This presumes that all people are informed. New people, by definition, are not that. Arguably their fault for (checks notes) getting on a social media site then?
I am saying that it is easy for a day-1 noob to feel “dunked on” based on this absolute rush of feedback, especially for e.g. someone on the wider Fediverse who was not even aware that hexbear was that way, so especially they had no chance to consent to that - no pop-up messages appeared, nothing really unless you hunt around dig and also scroll down to see it, underneath the community, they just saw a post and replied as normal but then WHABOOSH!
Also you did not explain how the person you were responding to was not merely “wrong” but rose to be fully “disingenuous”. Sadly this is something I notice often with hexbear - the culture seems to value “fights”, which ngl could be helpful if the goal were to use socratic discourse to achieve some end goal like Truth and/or Compassion, but far more often it looks to me, from the outside, like people who just enjoy fighting/dunking for its own sake.
You are free - and I will fight to the death for your rights to do precisely this - to do as you please, as it pertains to yourself, but when it crosses over to affect other people, then different rules come into play. Specifically, if people from hexbear will not control themselves, then that leaves others to have to do it for them - e.g. warn people what to expect from hexbear users. i.e., it is not “disingenuous” to say that hexbear users seem to be spoiling for a fight, if that is literally what happens.
Some of your critique is valid and warranted but the person I was referring to implied that I was being contrarian which is not at all what I was doing.
I was simply expanding on why this sort of enshitification occurs.
“least x y” is typically used sarcastically/ironically and if that was not the case and they misunderstood the joke they themselves made then I appologize.
You’ve clearly never posted on Hexbear because we often have lengthy discussions specifically because you can’t just downvote and move on.
You’ll probably get to experience that now in fact as all the Hexbears who see this go “uh that’s wrong” and tell you rather than downvote you. It’s a great community building tool.
You think I would write the comment I did without having made the experience? I’m banned from that community and I’m not even sad to be excluded from such a toxic realm
Toxic is what I encountered. It wasn’t just different opinions. It was what people called me and how and what they commented. I’m glad that didn’t happen to you yet but don’t pretend you know what happened to me.
They called me a liberal for pointing to “Homage to Catalonia”, which they called liberal propaganda even though I explained that in the book Orwell called out the Stalinists for siding with the liberals, indirectly against the anarchosyndicalists and thereby helping the fascists to power.
Sure, you can have different readings of historical events, but you can also spam people with 1984 memes and hate on an author without knowing shit about him. Reminds me of the Hakim video about Orwell where he claims that he never spoke about Franco even though Homage to Catalonia exists and that’s the book about his politicization and he cites it as most influential and most important. Except that Hakim didn’t react to someone who literally explained all that. Tbf some of the explaining was in later removed comments so some of the commenters didn’t see them.
Orwell was a well known anti communist, so yeah, pretty lib take to defend him. Seems called for to me. I bet you didn’t get banned for having one lib take though
Sounds like you have the right black and white thinking for hexbear. How is criticizing Stalin for working with the libs a thing that makes you a lib? Sure, he was anti communist, or rather anti stalinist and I guess anti bolshevik, and there is a lot to criticize from a left perspective, I’m not going to defend his homophobia and antisemitism but he was not a liberal. There are more than 2 political camps. How can you totally ignore my last comment?
So he was a right wing / conservative anarchist? Also known as a libertarian?
I guess it could be argued that libertarians aren’t necessarily neoliberals in the modern context, so okay, I’d be willing to admit he might not be a lib. However libertarians are even worse, so that’s even more funny that you’re defending him.
He was not. That’s why the left/right distinction is too one dimensional. He was a conservative anarchist (socialist) if anything but if you listen to the podcast you will see why not even that. Conservative anarchism seaks non hierarchical structures and communities in history and present and tries to use them as an example. Like Kropotkin did in “mutual aid” and Graeber in alot of his work.
I’m not sure if you are trying to understand me and this is really hard for you or you are just trying to prove me wrong. If you are really not understanding what I’m saying or not even trying. If you want to engage further, take the hour and listen to the podcast. It’s not my job to educate you in these basic concepts. I did alot already.
Conservatives anarchists want me and my comrades dead, so yes, I’m not super interested in hearing you out on this. Conservatism is at direct odds with literally me being alive. I’m seeing now why Hexbear banned you for sure. You literally want us dead of course you got banned
A thought terminating cliches from a tankie, how very unexpected. And how foolish of me to even give you the benefit of a doubt, I should know better by now, I’m long enough on the internet. You never heard of conservative anarchism before, don’t even try to understand the concept and what “conservative” in this context means, yet you think they want you dead. And after so many anarchists where killed by former comrades who talked about left unity until they were in power, I really should have known better.
On Hexbear, transphobic content can only be removed by mods and admins. If a regular user sees a dogwhistle, they can’t just downvote, they have to reply and explain it, and if the mods don’t agree, there will be nothing done about it. This is one of many reasons why Hexbear has so much transphobia.
Everyone on dbzer0 has the power to downvote content they don’t think should be on the site, which means even if a mod does a false negative, the masses may still put the content at the bottom of the feed and express that it’s unacceptable.
Hexbear is super transphobic. Half the people there think dronegender is a fake gender and call dronegender people trolls who are making fun of trans people, because they don’t have the open mindedness necessary to accept a new identity with curiosity instead of hatred. I even got banned for saying gender neutral pronouns exist, because the admins are offended by the idea “they” is a pronoun which does not assign a gender to the referent.
You definitely did not get banned for the reason you stated. You’re in fact doing the thing you got banned for right now by trying to define nonbinary people as not being a gender. I don’t know if you are a troll or just nitpicky to the point of invalidating other people’s experiences but in no way is hexbear transphobic.
Nonbinary isn’t a gender. It’s an umbrella term encompassing thousands of genders. Your insistence that nonbinary people are only one gender is exactly why I say Hexbear is full of transphobes who think of themselves as allies, but whose minds are far too closed.
Nonbinary is not one gender and they/them does not refer to one gender.
The first 25 years of my life were a mess. Going through the wrong puberty not knowing why everything felt so bad, becoming an alcoholic, moving every year sometimes twice in a year. I’m early 30s now, making good progress transitioning, quit drinking, staying in shape, down to moving about every other year. This is so far way better than my teenage years or 20s
MOVE! Get off the chair and keep moving, people. I'm 42, I can probably outrun or outwork a lot of these 20-somethings complaining of backaches and shit already.
Yeah I thought thirty was old when I was in high school. Adults of a given age have been getting healthier and healthier my entire life. Being childless in my early thirties is also a blessing. But come on. I had time and no money at twenty one. Now I have money and wisdom. And still healthy. Probably healthier than I was at 21.
Sure lots of people in their twenties are still poorly and may be unhealthy but there’s no magic age where life is over.
I’m older than you and still having a blast. I had a blast in my 20s, definitely moreso in the latter half of the 20s too. Being a teenager alternated between joy and misery too often due to hormonal disarray.
At this point I’m generally more content in life than I’ve ever been before.
Adults of a given age have been getting healthier and healthier my entire life
God, it’s easy to overlook how true this is. Looking at pictures of my parents and grandparents at my age is shocking. Less lead, asbestos, and cigarettes in your diet is good for you I guess. People drink alcohol less and wear more sunscreen too, which surely helps.
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