There have been multiple accounts created with the sole purpose of posting advertisement posts or replies containing unsolicited advertising.

Accounts which solely post advertisements, or persistently post them may be terminated.

@thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone cover
@thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone avatar

thatfrisiangirlish

@[email protected]

ae/aer - she/her - bowl of queer letter soup, hot

⚠️ feral nonbinary, bity

"Disclaimer: Any similarity to gendered concepts is coincidental, and is not to be taken as my endorsement thereof."

"Is it gay to be attracted to me? I don't know, kiss me, and tell me how that feels."

Fair warning to minors, very occasionally this account has lewd content, and I'm a cranky old bitch yelling at people.

Image description profile pic: Head of user's Baldur's Gate 3 character, a half elven woman

Below here, lots of pride flags: Progress Pride, Transfem, Nonbinary, Girlflux, Asexual, Bisexual, Lesbian, Polyamory
​:progress_flat:​ ​:transfem_flat:​ ​:nb_flat:​ ​:girlflux_flat:​ ​:ace_flat:​ ​:bi_flat:​ ​:lesbian_flat:​ ​:polyam_new_flat:​

This profile is from a federated server and may be incomplete. Browse more on the original instance.

ScottSoCal , to actuallyautistic
@ScottSoCal@computerfairi.es avatar

@actuallyautistic

A question, for anyone who wants to answer, about trust.

If someone breaks your trust in a fundamental way, can you "get over it" and trust them again?
I have a situation where I'm being told I need to get over it, and I think I have - I'm no longer angry. But trust them again? Put myself in a situation where I could be hurt by them again? No. I've never done that before, why should I start now?

And is this a me thing, or an autism thing?

thatfrisiangirlish ,
@thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone avatar

@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic Trust grows over time for me. To start with, there is very little trust, so very little to break. Humans will human, we're getting used to each other, mistakes happen. But the longer I know somebody, and the better they get to know me, and I feel they do know me, and I have given them a few pages from my manual, the more trust grows, and the bigger the possible breach gets.

I tried once to get over it. Reasoned it out with myself, in the situation I was with that person, and the circumstances. I intentionally put trust in that person, because mitigating circumstances, and would have completely upended my life otherwise. And you know what, they betrayed my trust again, just the same, the very next opportunity, and the upending happened anyway.

Go with your intuition. You're over it, not angry, so there's likely a good read. If you feel you can't trust that person again, don't. First time, trust is given, an advance of good faith. If that is broken, it must be earned. If somebody asks to "get over it", it's usually their own comfort they're looking out for, not your benefit.

I'm not diagnosed, but strongly suspected to be autistic. Some kind of neurospicy, definitely.

  • All
  • Subscribed
  • Moderated
  • Favorites
  • •
  • random
  • lifeLocal
  • goranko
  • All magazines
    •