MatthewKay

darrellpf , 1 month ago to actuallyautistic

One @actuallyautistic trait I haven't seen mentioned is what I'll call "efficienct routines".

I'm slow to learn a task, but once I know it I get faster and find more efficient ways to complete it. Doing the task without error and as quickly as possible is important. I can't stop halfway through or leave the task partially completed.

When I vacuum I do it exactly the same way every time. I know where to position it so I only plug in once. I despise being interrupted.

Is this common?

aehdeschaine , 2 months ago to bookstodon

Book recommendation request!

What's a good, reputable book on foraging in the Pacific Northwest? I would prefer one that includes an introduction to foraging practice, not just a list of plants.

I'm not knowledgeable enough in that world to judge on sight/name, and I know that's gotten exponentially worse in the last two years. Recommendations based on reading and using the book from a knowledgeable perspective would be great.

Please boost, and thank you!

#foraging #PNW @bookstodon

MatthewKay , 10 months ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic I’ve only been here a day or so. Damn, what a lot of fucking drama I’m seeing. Is it always like this?

sahat , 10 months ago (edited 9 months ago) to actuallyautistic

sometimes I read something on here a personal account or something political, that moves me. It often takes until the next day or even several days before I know why and what it is, that I would like to reply to that. most the time I don't, cus I can't find the original post anymore or because I assume, it's too late. Sometimes I then write up a long long post. About this issue and all the implications and my experience and so on.
That's just the way my brain functions. I can't help it. There seems to always be too much in it. Too many threads connecting too many things and too deep feelings. I wonder whether I should quit this alltogether and rather dump my hyperconnected brain's content into a blog. On the other hand, I love the community on here. All of this presents exactly the same in my offline life.

the @actuallyautistic community has helped me so much in trying all of this out, reflecting on it and receiving encouragement. In my initial unmasking phase I got a ton of flag from NT on my style of communication and the intensity of it. I knew I needed to learn and adjust.
I'm often way fast actually. All of these patterns and connected issues flash into my mind right away. But creating a bridge of communication takes time. Mastering the intensity and the volume of it. The impatience. The need to balance my physical.emotional mental energy finding ways to stim or otherwise relax that work. After decades of masking and suppressing some of the actual content I had to find a whole new way of expressing myself truthfully. With all of that extra ND energy and views included. It was rough at the beginning.
This space here was important to me in being able to have helpful and loving feedback and being able to take all of those baby steps. Thank you all.
#AuDhd #ActuallyAutistic #adhd