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Parent, spouse, IT & nature geek.
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Trans equality / Protect trans kids,
Autistic Pride, Neurodiversity, EDS
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AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Many autistic people struggle with “multiple choice” and “select the right answer” exam questions. A key reason for this is that the options available can feel - to our brains - like such vague simplifications or awkwardly worded answers that they all feel somewhat incorrect. 1/2

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@servelan @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

Exactly. I would note that they never actually performed the statistical analysis of traits promised before the DSM-5 working groups were chosen.

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@servelan @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

I'd believe that, except the APA went in the exact opposite direction with gender dysphoria (declassified it as a disorder but kept in so that trans people could still get needed medical care and accommodations).

Then again, IIR the APA has been a little chaotic internally for the last decade or so; perhaps inconsistencies should not be surprising.

DivergentDumpsterPhoenix , to actuallyautistic
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It's a tough truth to face up to, but not every Autstic/neurodivergent person is a good person. Many of us find out the hard way that there are members of our own community who will do harm to us collectively and individually.

It's important that we acknowledge the truth that we can always do better as a community. We don't have to be perfect. We just have to do a little better each day.

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Frances_Larina , (edited )
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@Susan60 @omegahaxors @Dr_Obvious @DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @audhd

I get the feeling it's all a scattershot of traits with groups of people that clump together statistically and the clumps overlap significantly. The problem is, for 100+ years psych decided that traits NT's usually don't have together means someone is X, another set of traits mean someone is Y and so on, with the labels designated as pathologies because the individuals they were studying didn't conform to norms. During the historical period that psych was becoming what it is today, enforcement of norms was paramount. During that same period, the theory was pushed and happily accepted that all deviances from the norm are learned behaviors that can be unlearned - Skinner, Blank Slate theory, etc.. Psych sold the promise to "help" people unlearn their differences and agree to conform. The Cold War magnified the pressure for social conformity. It ended, the Internet came about, and ND's could compare notes.

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AutisticAdam , to actuallyautistic
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Sorry I can’t come to the phone right now. I’m autistic and simply not good at calls. Please call back literally never. Texts and emails exist for a reason.

Thank you.

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@kcarruthers @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic @simonlbn

Just this morning

Me, to a certain coworker: "That's correct, just email me the server name and IP"

That coworker: "Great, I'll call you!"

Dremmwel , to actuallyautistic French
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Autistic members, how do you do the difference between a question you can answer yes or no and an order disguised in a question?
If you ask me "do you want to do X?" or "do you think you can do X?" I always understand it as if I have the equal possibility to answer yes or no. But I often have trouble at work with colleagues or superiors finding disrespectful I answered no. Bc their question is a polite form of "do X!". But to me a question is a question, not an order 🤔

Frances_Larina ,
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@Dremmwel @actuallyautistic

I usually answer their question honestly then follow up with a question to confirm what they want from me. Sorta like this:

Them: "Do you think you can do X?"

Me: "I can, although I'm also working on Y. Do you need me to do X first?"

f1337 , to actuallyautistic
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I feel vulnerable and anxious to even share this, but it’s nagging at me so here goes…

Topic: The ND tendency to share a similar experience.

It was ~15 years ago. I was having a beer with an old friend, sharing the story of the stillbirth of my second child. His response to the news was “I guess that’s a lot like divorce,” and proceeded to tell me how he imagined his divorce was similar.

1/n

Frances_Larina ,
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@f1337 @actuallyautistic @allautistics

First, my condolences, and yes I know it's been years. But it still hurts even after being dulled by time.

My take on sharing experiences is that as long as someone is not actively trying to one-up the original speaker, they are attempting to provide support however clumsily. That does not negate your feelings, at all; they are valid. And you don't have to let them go. But also, your friend may not understand what happened, and perhaps he's gained some wisdom over the years?

StevenSaus , to actuallyautistic

Four Different Autism Subtypes Identified by Brain Activity (from April 2023)

Using a combination of machine learning and neuroimaging data, researchers report people on the autism spectrum can be classified into four different subtype groups based on brain activity and behavior.

https://neurosciencenews.com/asd-subtypes-machine-learning-22968/

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Frances_Larina ,
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@StevenSaus @actuallyautistic

In a perfect world, this and all similar neurological study results should put the nail in the coffin of behavior based "interventions".

Psych of course, would be out of a job so that's not going to happen.

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