This is particularly relevant to neurospicy folx. Just "do it harder" is useless advice to us. We have to give ourselves grace and then control our environment. But first we have to stop blaming ourselves.
You are doing the best you can right now, with your situation the way it is.
I'm #autistic. The sound of the train blowing its horn as it passes my house makes me cover my ears in pain. But the throbbing bass of the engine that causes a deep pressure in my chest from the vibration makes me feel happy.
When I was a kid, I used to crank up the bass of my parents' stereo and sit directly against the woofer to feel that pressure. They would always yell at me to turn it down. I've always loved that feeling.