This could be the connection between Ehlers-Danlos and neurodivergence. (People with EDS, like me, are 7 times as likely to be autistic and 5 times as likely to have ADHD -- also like me.)
> Individuals with hypermobility are (up to 16 times) overrepresented among those with panic or anxiety disorders.2 Hypermobility is also linked to stress-sensitive psychosomatic disorders including irritable bowel syndrome, fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue and is associated with hypersensitivity to nociceptive stimuli.
Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:
Comfortable with ambiguity
Strong people skills
Good culture fit
Multitasking
A fast-paced dynamic environment
Bachelor's degree or better
I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.
@hosford42@actuallyautistic@neurodivergence I don’t think you or anybody else has actually created space in this conversation for people who are different from you. I’m sorry you’re confused. I hope it starts to give you a healthier respect for how difficult real communication actually is. But I’ll repeat what I said. It doesn’t feel worth it for me to try to fight through your biases about that. If you think you’ve got it all figured out, then good luck.
You think I don't appreciate how hard communication is? That's bordering on insult. I've spent 45 years of my life with that as the central difficulty in my life. The absolute worst contributor to that difficulty is when people refuse to even attempt it.
Still wondering what you think it is that I supposedly have all figured out. But if you want to lob accusations and then run away without even explaining why you felt the need, I can't stop you. What I can do is point out that it's on you, not me, if you're the one refusing an attempt at mutual understanding. You're creating a bubble where no one can understand you. There's nothing to figure out, because you've provided zero information besides your own irritation, dismissal, and negative assumptions.
To judge someone, I generally only look at how they act, not how they think. It's based on the following proverb: 君子論跡不論心 This guideline has helped me greatly in understanding society.
I personally find all the conspiracy theory about how people think kind of pointless. I can't understand why they are people who would spend time on finding evidence that, some oil company CEO actually knows about climate change. To me, that has no value. To the public though... I hate my life
@iacore@actuallyautistic@neurodivergence The thing about systemic ableism is, there really isn't someone specific to point the blame at. It's the whole arrangement that is faulty. We all participate to some degree. It's not about judging people so much as taking responsibility to correct it. The only time judgment of a person comes into it is when someone willfully acts to maintain the status quo or shirk their social responsibilities.
You can tell the difference between systemic ableism and incompetence by who is affected. If it's everyone, it's incompetence. If it's disabled people in particular, it's ableism. (It can also be both at once, if everyone is affected but disabled folks are affected more.)
@JoBlakely@artemis@hosford42@actuallyautistic@neurodivergence I apologize for not having replied to this properly sooner. Some of the things you tell deeply resonate with me, though I assume we both know they are actually far more complex. I would just like to point out that it's not good to assume bad intentions or extreme selfishness in others. Where you have self-consistency or a logical imperative, they face an incomprehensible world with fear and a myopic vision.
@caocancio
With respect, my bosses had no fear of any retaliation, were incredibly abusive,
had extremely bad intentions, and only thought of themselves. They had power and authority and abused it.