My boss has my personal number. Calls a few times a week, not sure he has much outside working hours, “working hours” being plenty flexible. Don’t care. If he calls me right now (about midnight), I’m answering and helping with whatever he asks. And he wouldn’t call unless a customer, internal or external, was having a real issue that needed resolved before morning.
“You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours.” He bends the company rules for me, I bend my rules for him. He treats me fairly, I reciprocate. LOL, our team has a private Slack channel that senior management (ironically including my boss), can’t snoop on. (I’m the Slack admin. I can’t see any private shit I’m not invited to.)
What must it be like “lawyering” every interaction with your employer? If you gotta do that, leave, leave quick. Feeling and acting like that tells me you got a toxic environment.