I once got in an argument with a coworker that it is unacceptable to choose work over being a parent, in that it’s not enough to just work and bring money home, but you have to actually spend quality time with your children. She got very upset that I was critical of “hard workers” that “put food on the table.”
Like no, I’m sorry. Your family needs more than money.
Anyways, her opinion is the dominant opinion in the USA. I’m in the minority.