I agree with you about Tesla not having a culture of safety, and I don’t doubt your personal experience. I think I just have been lucky. My wife also has a Tesla (a 3, I have an X), and she paid the up front for FSD and has enjoyed it for 3+ years with no problems. I have two friends that drive Tesla, one as their primary (a Y) the other as their secondary (a more recent model 3 than my wife’s), and no one has had those kind of problems.
The video evidence speaks for itself–it clearly does happen. It just seems to happen very rarely, in my limited experience. I’ve personally watched humans drive through red lights more often than I’ve personally heard of Tesla owners have cars that do the same, but, again, I’m open to the critical position. But my wife and I enjoy FSD very much, and so do my friends, and we’ve just not had problems with it. I don’t expect to be able to sleep in the back seat while it drives me somewhere, but I drive up and down the east coast for work (I’ve had my X for 9mo and have 12k+ miles on it), and it’s incredibly nice and has changed my work experience.