How do you like Actual? I set up Fireflyiii as well, but once I read that there is no way to share a ledger, so to speak, it turned me off a bit.
My wife has bookkeeping experience, so something that is a bit closer to double entry bookkeeping would be awesome, since it should fit easily into her quickbooks experience.
Currently looking at akaunting, which seems like it may work, if it is truly self hosted