@rachelnabors This has been a constant struggle for me since starting remote work. For two reasons, the first being that Allistic people rarely say what they mean, or give you all the details so I have to ask. The second being that I've got so much experience in my domain that I'm thinking about things they haven't considered & need to make sure they're ok with the consequences they're setting themselves up for if I do what they asked.
Doesn't matter how hard I try to "soften" the questions