I've looked into a local care agency and it all seems doable, and they have a great reputation, but now I have to broach the subject. I can just hear (with my @actuallyautistic experience) "Heather says I can't have my friends round when you're out", just like it was "Heather says the house is too dirty" when I responded to her sighing about the state of the house with some suggestions for how to manage it.
She won't be honest about why she wants someone in. She told last night's friend that...