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Should I just quit urban and social life for a rural and lonely life?

I’m majoring in CS related-field, and I used to have tons of passion for it and underlying tech, and worked as full stack dev, but my mind was very different in a good way (better at logical/cognitive demanding tasks, creative, productive, etc). Things happened, and I just can’t stand living in society, experiencing all this materialistic world and feeling sick about it. I’m truly traumatized and I’ve been trying all available means to improve (so I’m not asking what rule 3 is against)… I can’t feel any passion for what I used to do… The meanings I gave for my life and hope are away. I don’t care anymore about digital world, industrialization, I just can’t. So my performance has suffered due to all this.

So, it can sound funny to read this, but I am considering living in a farm I have access to and do my own farming to eat, artesian well for water, constructing just a little home to live… I don’t exactly care about electricity. I would probably be happier just by burning some stuff to have light at night if needed and looking at the stars all alone until death.

What do you all think about this?

korewa ,

I have similar thinking I moved out in a rural area about 30 minutes to the suburb grocery store. I guess I didn’t move out far enough cause they’re building neighborhoods nearby and rolling out fiber. I’m about an hour from city center or 66 miles.

It’s quiet which I like but I miss being able to go out cause it’s not practical to drive 30min for every little errand. We’re making friends nearby which helps. Mostly due to my kids so it’s not too lonely I have my wife and kids and brother and in laws are less than a mile from me.

No comment on farming as I don’t have personal experience just what I’ve read. we buy our veggies and eggs from a nearby farm . Good enough for me. I would imagine farming myself would take most of the day and it’s hard work. Sounds like a dream but I think it will be a lot harder. Try gardening onions and garlic those are the easier ones to start along with peppers if it’s for you.

klemptor ,

You’re probably underestimating how much hard work it really is to live off the land.

grandel ,

I don’t think OP meant to say it’s easy, but fulfilling.

SlopppyEngineer ,

I discovered I’m bad at growing food and glad I don’t have to live off what I grow. That would be stressful.

HellAwaits ,

Use water instead of gatorade for the plants. You’re welcome.

Zippy ,

I would say you need a change. I suspect you have some level of depression and a change of direction can help. I think you will find living off the land not as peaceful as you think. Deciding to live a minimalist existence can be rewarding but doing so with zero basic amenities is brutal. Have no power and relying on your land for all your needs becomes tedious very fast. An extremely small percentage of people could successfully do that.

Possibly have you considered just moving to a small rural town and taking on more labor type of small work. Handyman stuff of your own comforts. Not sure of your skills but you would need to be a handyman if your thinking of becoming a hermit. Just one suggestion.

girltwink ,

No, you should not. Read about Ted Kaczynski. We’re naturally social creatures. Isolation is very very bad for our mental health. If you’re feeling misanthropic now, it will get worse when you’re not around people.

It might be good for you to take a sabbatical and hike one of the triple crown trails. But the important part is to not isolate yourself completely.

KingJalopy ,

Not true for everyone

FordBeeblebrox ,

Can confirm. Grew up in a town of 1k and being around too many people makes me nervous. Open spaces and nature is calming

TheMauveAvenger ,

Sorry, bud. Girltwink says you’re a serial killer.

KingJalopy ,

I mean just look at this one guy who was crazy as shit balls before he even secluded himself. That’ll be you if you decide to be alone.

FordBeeblebrox ,

To my knowledge I have not been experimented upon by the CIA, I’m just a redneck, but then again how would you know?….

vis4valentine ,
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Luke smith is that you?

Chriszz ,

Did I write this? Could’ve fooled me. I know what you’re feeling and I’m looking for the answers too.

qwamqwamqwam ,

Do what you have to. At the end of the day nothing is coming with you to the other side.

That being said, CS is remarkably flexible to accommodating a naturist lifestyle. Try it out in bits and pieces before you settle on the wild life. It’s not one or the other, people can and do get both.

evanuggetpi ,

Yes. I quit my web development career despite a great job because ultimately we were tasked with creating value for shareholders. Fuck that. At the 10 year mark of my career I asked myself if I was any happier than when I started out. The answer was NO.

So I resigned, emigrated from UK to NZ, bought some land, and ironically now make more than I ever would have in an office as an employee, and have hectares of land in a beautiful spot which I steadily plant up into a food forest.

Life’s too short. See what your options are. You can live well rurally, but it’s not for everyone.

pingveno ,

I say this only because it's funny, not to mock you. Naturalist (-al-) is likely the word you're looking for. Naturist is basically another name for nudist. Unless maybe OP wants to be out in the sticks for another reason. :)

qwamqwamqwam ,

Lol I knew that didn’t sound right but couldn’t figure out why. Thanks!

Mothra ,
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Give it a go, why not? You only know yourself by trying new things.

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